http://www.geocities.com/Colosseum/Stands/...esremember.html

This is see and hear alot in the islamic community, and I state this for our overall muslim family.

I pray Allah bless me to state what is right.

The Messenger (saaws) said, "When a woman spends the night forsaking the bed of her husband, then the angels curse her until she returns.

The Messenger (saaws) said to a woman, "Indeed he is your Paradise and your Fire. {meaning her husband}

My opinion: It is important that when the husbands are not that romanitc, but loves his wife, she should still surrender to her husband, because he has the right of her as his tilth. A woman should want to please her husband, as Allah (saaws) has placed mercy between the two. As well as the husband should want to please his wife, but sisters you must understand a man is different than a woman and sometimes, not that soft.

Abu Hurayrah® said, that the Messenger (saaws) said, "If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fast her month in Ramadhaan, guards her private parts, and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, Enter Paradise through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.

My opinion: This life isn't perfect, no love-relation is perfectly romanitc, but women must not refuse their husbands unless it is for a logically reason, not just because she just don't want to fulfill her husband's desires.

Every man (especially muslim men, who should know better than the average man), we should want to please our wives, and all muslim women should want to please their husbands, 2 wrongs don't make a right.

Insha'llah, be the one to please the other no matter what, until Allah wills other wise. Marriage is sacred and we should try to go against all evil, to keep our families together, this life isn't nothing, and we need to do all the good we can, especially in our families.

I pray I didn't transgress any bounds (cross any lines) or offend anyone. I truely wish well for us all.

May Allah (swt) grant us HIs Good Pleasure above all.

As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llahi wa barakatu!

assalamualaikum my bros and sisters

as u may or may not have noticed ur youngest moderator was away 4 a bit the mods in our own "private section " knew bout this i went on holiday 4 about 2 and a half weeks .......and i tell u it was hot!! ( not saying where i went ) i promised the mods i would tell them all about my holiday ....... but on the other hand ..........maybe not! ......

ne way things have changed here for starters muslimah has retired the person who made me a mod ( i might be responsible........ nah !!! ) and amira's turned all funny .... and we have a ney guy in our "private section " him and his wonderful colourful pics .... i tell u what all of u need to go on a holiday to refresh ur minds... ne way could u all make dua im gettin my results next week ........ hope there good

Islamic Circles Matrimonial Service Presents:

MUSLIM MARRIAGE EVENT - THE WAY FORWARD

Date: Saturday 16th August 2003

Time: 12 noon til 6pm

Venue: Froud Centre, 1 Toronto Avenue (at junction with Romford Rd),

Manor Park, London E12 5JF

The "shaadi (marriage) season" is here and the question in your mind

might be, "When will I get married?"

The last event held in March 2003 dealt with various marriage related

issues that Muslims born and bred in the UK face, some of which were

controversial and people would rather sweep under the carpet.

Experienced Muslim marriage counsellors, as well as an 'aalim and a

psychotherapist were invited to the event. The audience participated

in workshops, group discussions and feedback sessions. Interested

participants were also introduced via a unique card profiling system

where Islamic etiquettes were maintained. Alhamdulillah a few marriages

have already taken place as a result. Unfortunately due to time

constraints solutions could not be discussed in detail.

Quite often all we do is just complain, moan and sometimes discuss

the difficulties associated with trying to find someone to get

married to. We can discuss and discuss until the cows come home

but how do we practically deal with these issues?

We are now pleased to announce a bigger and better organised event

with more emphasis on providing solutions.

. There will be a special session in Urdu and Bengali for parents and

guardians, plus opportunities for introductions to take place.

. The whole community centre has been hired, where there will be a

mixture of small group workshops and larger plenary sessions for

feedback.

. This event is not just for 'hijabis' and "religious" people.

EVERYONE is welcome, including ex-clubbers, ex-drinkers, etc.

What are the SOLUTIONS for the following problems in our society?

1. How to encourage brothers to stop being pansies and start being

real men, and marry sisters HERE in the UK.

2. You want to marry someone but your PARENTS are the main obstacle.

3. What is wrong with DIVORCEES - how can they get married?

4. I want to meet someone in a 'halal' way. How is this possible?

Many so-called 'halal' marriage services are arranging so-called halal

events for Muslims but unfortunately the most "halal" aspect might be

just the meat and they still fail to address the key issues within the

Muslim community, if not all of them!

* Perhaps you meet someone that you like but you can't get married to

them because of X,Y,Z. What do you do?

* Do you feel comfortable sitting round a dinner table with 5-10

members of the opposite sex and then deciding who your partner

for life will be? Be honest with yourselves!

* Or perhaps you've heard about the recently publicised Speed Intros

service where you meet upto 30 "professional" muslims in one night.

Chatting to 30 different members of the opposite sex for five

minutes each in a single evening.

* What about going for Muslim 'guys and gals' picnics and paintballing

in mixed groups? Okay, there is definitely a problem with people

finding partners these days but have we become that desperate?!

* Do you want an event that would not only provide SOLUTIONS but where

you could also meet your POTENTIAL MATCH, insha'Allah?

* Do you want an event where parents should be explained what their

rights & limitations are?

* Are you a divorcee who wants to be given a chance?

* Are you fed up of websites, paid & free marriage services ?

* Are you fed up of talks on marriage & discussions on Asian radio &

TV stations which don't offer solutions, just mere chat?

* Are you sick and tired of "incestuous" and "nepotistic" mosque and

organisation based services, where you have to be "in with the boys"

or "chummy" with committee/shura members to even get a chance of

someone helping you. And if you're a revert, then you might as well

forget it!

* Are you fed up with these pretentious "halal" singles evenings in

posh restaurants? What has the actual outcome been? Practically zilch!

* "My parents ALWAYS bring the WRONG person?"

* "I am a revert - I don't know where to start?"

* "We have very few friends and family contacts - where can we go?"

* You don't practice but your heart is in Islam and want to find

someone who is Muslim - so called practicing people don't bother

helping because they look down on you or are just "too pious" and

just "too busy being active in da’wah" (yeah right).

Invited 'Qualified' Facilitators Include:

* Mufti Abdul Karim Barakatulla (Senior Imam, Finchley Mosque, London)

* Sister Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood (Author of The Muslim Marriage Guide

and several other books)

* Brother Ajmal Masrur (Marriage Counsellor)

* Sister Sarah Sheriff (Author of Women's Rights in Islam)

* Brother Shahnawaz Haque (Muslim Psychotherapist)

* 'Alimah Barakatulla (Wife of Mufti Abdul Karim Barakatulla)

* Sister Najma Ebrahim (Muslim Women's Helpline)

* Brother Zahoor Qureshi (Islamic Society of Britain)

* Sister Sufia Amin(Young Muslims UK)

It is mandatory to bring one or both parents. If this is not possible,

then someone who would be able to influence the parents. Why is this?

Because research has shown that parents are half the problem. If you

don't have parents or a wali or you are a revert then you can of course

still come. Divorcees are most welcome. No passport and asylum seekers

please. Failure to comply with these requirements will mean no

registration or no entrance to the event.

Cost: £10 per person.

* Unfortunately no children allowed on this occasion.

* Pre-registration is compulsory, either by e-mail or phone.

* Bookstalls available

* Refreshments available

DIRECTIONS TO VENUE:

Nearest Rail: Manor Park (From Liverpool Street)

Nearest Tube: East Ham (District Line)

Buses: 25, 86, 147

http://www.streetmap.co.uk/newmap.srf?x=54...9&z=1&sv=542750

Road: From the A406 (North Circular), turn off at Ilford and go

towards Central London along the A118 (Romford Road). The Froud

Centre is located on the 4th intersection on the right.

Rail: Come out of Manor Park station onto Station Road. Cross over,

turn right and walk to the main traffic lights. Turn left at this

junction onto Romford Road. Walk 300 metres up the road. The Froud

Centre is located on the 5th intersection on the left.

Tube: Come out of East Ham station, cross over to the opposite side

and catch the 147 bus. Ask the driver to drop you off on Romford Road

near the petrol station. When you exit the bus turn left and walk

100 metres up the road. The Froud Centre will be on your right.

Places are running out fast. To guarantee your place please:

Call:

07092 032 136

07958 326 176

E-mail:

muslim_matrimonials@yahoo.com

islamic_circles@hotmail.com

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

إلــى الشـــــبـاب

إن الحمد لله، نحمده ونستعينه ونستغفره، ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا ومن سيئات أعمالنا، من يهده الله فهو المهتد ومن يضلل فلا هادي له. وأشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وأن محمدا عبده ورسوله. أدى الأمانة، ونصح الأمة، وكشف الغمة، حتى تركنا على المحجة البيضاء، ليلها كنهارها لا يزيغ عنها إلا هالك. وبعد.....

أيها الأخوة الأعزاء.. إننا كمسلمين نهتم بأمر المسلمين. والناظر إلى أحوال المسلمين في شاشات التلفاز يرى أن ما يعلن من الأخبار في مجمله يتلخص في أن الإسلام مضطهد ومحارب لا لشئ إلا أن المسلمين ارتضوا بالله ربا وبالإسلام دينا وبمحمد نبيا ورسولا والقرآن شرعة ومنهاجا. فهاهم في كشمير تُسلب أراضيهم، وفي الفليبين تهضم حقوقهم، وفي فلسطين تنتهك المحارم، وفي الشيشان تحرق أراضيهم، بل في بعض بلاد المسلمين نرى من تُسلب حريته لأنه يقول: لا إله إلا الله، وصدق الله تعالى إذ يقول: ((وما نقموا منهم إلا أن يؤمنوا بالله العزيز الحميد)).

فإلى متى يظل هذا الوضع الأليم؟ وإلى متى هذه الحالة المأساوية؟ متى يأتي صلاح الدين وخالد بن الوليد؟ من الذي يوقظ الأمة المسلمة من هذا الكابوس الذي تغرق فيه؟ فإلى كل شاب مسلم غيور.. إلى كل شاب مسلم يحمل هَمَّ أمته...وإلى كل شاب مسلم يريد الجنة.....وإلى كل شاب مسلم يبحث عن الطريق.....وإلى كل شاب مسلم ينتظر منه الإسلام دورا لإعادة أمجاده ليكون جنديا في جيش خالد أو صلاح الدين......إليك أيها الأخ الحبيب أهدي هذا البحث؛ سائلا المولى عز وجل أن يجعله خالصا لوجهه... إنه على ذلك قدير وبالإجابة جدير.

الفصل الأول : الشباب

* لماذا الشباب؟

قبل أن يُبعث محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم، كان الناس في العالم يموجون في ضلالات عديدة فكرية وشركية ووثنية وإلحادية، إلى الضلالات الخلقية التي وصلت في الهند على سبيل المثال إلى أحط شئ، حيث استباحوا الأعراض، وأباحوا اللعب بالعورات، وابتداع الأشكال المزرية للزواج. أما العرب فكانوا أمة متخبطة عبارة عن قبائل متفرقة يحكمهم قانون الغابة، فالبقاء للأقوى: القوي يأكل حق الضعيف، والغني يظلم الفقير. أحلوا الربا واعتبروه كالبيع فكوّن الطبقية في المجتمع ليزيد الغني غنى والفقير فقرا. عبدوا الأحجار والشمس والكواكب والقمر، عبدوا الأوثان والأصنام، وبلغ الضلال بأحدهم أن يصنع إلهه من التمر فإذا جاع أكله!! وانتشر القمار حتى أن أحدهم يقامر بأهله وماله فيخسرهما جميعا.. انتشر شرب الخمر وانحطت الأخلاق، وهُضم حق المرأة منذ ولادتها، فإن سلمت المرأة من الوأد في صغرها وعاشت ذاقت الهوان والعذاب، وإن كانت زوجة فلا يحق لها المطالبة بحقوقها، وإن مات زوجها تبقى معلقة أو تُورَث مع البهائم والأموال.

وعندما جاءت رسالة رب الأرباب، رسالة الإسلام الوسطية العادلة ومنهج الحياة القويم من الرحمن الرحيم ليخرج الناس من الظلمات إلى النور، فحمل رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم مشعل الهدية ينير الدرب، فكان أول من استجاب لهديه صلى الله عليه وسلم عشرة شباب:

أبو بكر الصديق - 37سنة.

عمر بن الخطاب - 27 سنة.

عثمان بن عفان - 34 سنة.

علي بن أبي طالب - 10 سنوات.

طلحة بن عبيد الله - 14 سنة.

الزبير بن العوام - 16 سنة.

سعد بن أبي وقاص- 17 سنة.

سعيد بن زيد - 15 سنة.

أبو عبيدة بن الجراح - 27 سنة.

عبد الرحمن بن عوف - 30 سنة.

ولاحظ يا أخي أن هؤلاء هم العشرة المبشرون بالجنة، وأن أعمارهم تترواح بين 10 و37 سنة أي بمتوسط 23 سنة تقريبا أي في ريعان الشباب وعنفوانه، وأن معظم هؤلاء الشباب كانوا قادة جيوش المسلمين، وفتحوا بلاد العالم، ولهم سير عظيمة حافلة بالجهاد والتضحية والفداء. ونستنتج مما سبق أن من غير وجه التاريخ بعد الحقبة المظلمة كانوا من الشباب، فرضي الله عنهم ورضوا عنه، وهو الأمر المنتظر من شباب اليوم وفتيانه.

Bismillahir-rahmanir-raheem

As-salaamu alaykom wa rahmat-Allaahi wa barakaatuhu

[b:9029d528ce]Question: Is smoking cigarettes Haraam?[/b:9029d528ce]

Answer (Islam Q&A ):

Praise be to Allah and peace and blessings be on His Prophet SAWS.

Smoking is one of the things which has caused a lot of problems and harm these days and it has spread like wild fire. Before we discuss this topic in detail, we should know that Allaah the Almighty has divided things in the world into two types, good or permissible (al-tayyibaat, al-halaal) and evil or prohibited (al-khabaa'ith, al-haraam), and there is no third type. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning) in surat al-A'raaf (7:157):

"And He makes good things halaal for them and bad things haraam."

Considering this fact, smoking can either be permissible and good or prohibited and evil.

Thus, we present some of its characteristics and let the person asking the question see himself in which type lies smoking.

There is no disagreement among the physicians and sane people that smoking is harmful for health. It is one of the major causes of lung cancer and other diseases. It is also one of the major causes of death. Since, it is known that the Islamic law prohibits everything that is harmful for a human being. Allah said (interpretation of meaning):

"Do not kill yourself. Allah is Merciful unto you." (Surat al-Nisaa' 4:29)

In addition, His Prophet SAWS (peace be upon him) said:

"There is no harm or causing of harm (in Islaam)." (Arabic "laa darar wa laa diraar")

He SAWS (peace be upon him) also said:

"A person will not be able to move on the Day of Judgment until he is asked about ... his body as to what he engaged it in."

Smoking also goes against the saying of the Prophet SAWS:

"Your body has a right on you."

There is no disagreement among the physicians and sane people that smoking is harmful for the health of others who inhale the polluted breath of the smoker. Medical research has proven the harmful effects of smoking mothers on their children.

The offensive smell caused by smoking is a source of pain to the worshippers of Allah among humans and angels. The angels are offended and suffer from the same things that the human beings suffer from. Allah said (interpretation of the meaning):

"Those who cause harm to believing men and women without any reason do a great sin." (Surat al-Ahzaab, 33:58)

The money that is spent on cigarettes is used on buying a harmful thing and is therefore an extravagance. Allah said (interpretation of the meaning):

"… and do not be extravagant wasters. Those who are extravagant are kinsmen of Satan." (Surat al-Israa' 17:26-27)

Extravagance (in Islam) means spending on something haraam.

Spending money on cigarettes is a waste of resources as well. The Prophet SAWS (peace be upon him) said:

"A person will not be able to move on the Day of Judgment until he is asked about ..... what he owned as to how he spent it."

Considering all that has been presented, it can be clearly seen that smoking is an evil among many others. It is not permissible to indulge in it, or buy and sell it, or even to offer it to others. It is incumbent on a person who is addicted to it that he must make all efforts and get whatever necessary treatment to stop it. If the unbelievers have understood the harm caused by smoking and made laws regarding it, the Muslims should be even more eager to stop it and treat those who are addicted to it.

We ask Allah the Almighty to cure everyone indulging in this evil and help him in giving it up. Allah is the Best Guide to the Right Path.

Islam Q&A

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)

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[img:9029d528ce]http://www.alhouta.com/moshaaf5.gif[/img:9029d528ce] What do you know about Islaam ??? Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful - is known through knowledge:::[b:9029d528ce]So KNOW ![b:9029d528ce]that there is no God but Allah.[/size:9029d528ce][/b:9029d528ce] - Surat Muhammad 47:19

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Iraqi Trailers Said to Make Hydrogen, Not Biological Arms

By DOUGLAS JEHL

WASHINGTON, Aug. 8 — Engineering experts from the Defense Intelligence Agency have come to believe that the most likely use for two mysterious trailers found in Iraq was [b:dc91da4b5f]to produce hydrogen for weather balloons rather than to make biological weapons,[/b:dc91da4b5f] government officials say.

The classified findings by a majority of the engineering experts differ from the view put forward in a white paper made public on May 28 by the C.I.A. and the Defense Intelligence Agency, which said that the trailers were for making biological weapons.

http://www.nytimes.com/2003/08/09/internat...ial/09WEAP.html

-- Ali

Assalaamoalaikum

It would be a great help if anyone would explain to me the rules of Singular form, and plural form. I mean the ways you can make a word plural.

-- Ali

Salam Alaikum!

I am a non-Muslim who is very interested in Islam. I have learned to read arabic, but does anyone know any good sites that can teach me to recite the Qur'an?

Peace be with you all.

[b:537805a2d9]asslamo alikum all im new user here...... my english is poor inshalla all of u going to help me [/b:537805a2d9]8)