06-02-2004, 07:05 AM
As salam alykom Intution
I am not here to reply on Jennifer's behalf, however, I think I can understand her point.
Just refer to the incident when one of the companions (can not recall his name now) killed a kafir during a battle after he pronounced shahada. The Messenger became very upset and kept blaming him did u kill someone who said La ilaha ila Allah, and the companion said he only said it to rescue himself for I was in a position that allows me easily to kill him.
The Messenger (salla Allah a`alyhee wa salam) said did u open his heart (lietrally in Arabic) did u slit his heart. In an implication of did u open his heart to know his niyah. The Messenger (salla Allah a`alyhee wa salam) kept repeating it until the companion said I wished I never embraced Islam before this incident.
Intution, I know what u r talking about and I know people who went into similar marriages, people like us raised Muslims can not help but to always look at this with skipticism. But just look at this incident and I am sure you will understand the point.