12-02-2003, 12:40 AM
Assalam aleikum
Akhee Abu Dujanah, what is your reference for saying Hassan wed 200 women, from what ive read the figure was in the 80s, just curious as its more than double.
Although i agree in principle with what you've said, as a wife Im not quite sure about being compared to a cup! Seems a bit of an imature comparison....maybe cause youre not married yet. We wives are hard work, its not as easy as drinking a cup of tea. And as well as them missing you, they will also be giving you a headache, cause thats what we wives do. Not as easy as you think.
And better for you to say Inshallah, regarding treating your future wife/wives well.
You have brought up good points, but re: the sahaba marrying numerous women and being poor or astaining from wordly things. Ya ahkee they had taqwa and upheld ALL their obligations of the deen, jihad and in marriage etc. How brothers can say that nowadays ? You brothers have a BIG responsibility in Islam. 30,000.00 sisters raped in Bosnia alone, whats going to be the answer of the so called men of our Ummah regarding this?
And the sahaba married the widows and the needy, it wasn't just about variety (which im sure you didn't mean, but your post implied it)
Having slave girls is halal, but its war booty......and no one is fighting the war! (with a small exceptions).
I'm not trying to divert from the subject, but when we talk about the sahaba marrying or having slave girls, they fullfiled their obligations in every matter. And they feared Allah tala in the smallest of things, so what about human life? Islam is not an negligent religion, if a man wants polygamy, fine thats his right but know the responsibility involved. Lets not belittle the deen just to make a statment.
I think there's a bit of tit for tat going on here!
And what brother would like to be raised half paralysed, due to his injustice between his wives? No, we want good for our brothers as we want for ourselves. This is a very serious subject, and a BIG responsibility for a brother.
Salam
****And how come everyone starts jumping up and down at Abu Dujanah's posts? Where's the dialogue?