Polygamy

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Posted by soledad

Can anybody besides this guy Abu reply to this? I'm a non-Muslim but common sense will tell me that the Islam like any other religion talks about Love in the marriage whether you're married one wife or 10. But this message is talking about Lust ONLY. Does the Islam support this?.

Soledad,if u read my previous answer u would know that prophet Mohammad married his wives as I mentioned for political reasons and also for pity reasons, because the islam nation was always in Jihad the men would die and leave behind them wives and family so will they be left like that?, no of course not, other sahaba will take care of them and their children, by this the society will be strong and united and there will be no poverty or helpless women, they did that by following the example of the prophet, but his wives were chosen for him by order from God he did not marry for lust,

In the Holy Quran:

In the Name of Allah most Gracious most merciful:

50. O Prophet (Muhammad )! Verily, We have made lawful to you your wives, to whom you have paid their Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage), and those (captives or slaves) whom your right hand possesses - whom Allâh has given to you, and the daughters of your 'Amm (paternal uncles) and the daughters of your 'Ammah (paternal aunts) and the daughters of your Khâl (maternal uncles) and the daughters of your Khâlah (maternal aunts) who migrated (from Makkah) with you, and a believing woman if she offers herself to the Prophet, and the Prophet wishes to marry her; a privilege for you only, not for the (rest of) the believers. Indeed We know what We have enjoined upon them about their wives and those (captives or slaves) whom their right hands possess, - in order that there should be no difficulty on you. And Allâh is Ever Oft_Forgiving, Most Merciful.

51. You (O Muhammad ) can postpone (the turn of) whom you will of them (your wives), and you may receive whom you will. And whomsoever you desire of those whom you have set aside (her turn temporarily), it is no sin on you (to receive her again), that is better; that they may be comforted and not grieved, and may all be pleased with what you give them. Allâh knows what is in your hearts. And Allâh is Ever All_Knowing, Most Forbearing.

52. It is not lawful for you (to marry other) women after this, nor to change them for other wives even though their beauty attracts you, except those (captives or slaves) whom your right hand possesses. And Allâh is Ever a Watcher over all things. 33 Surat Alahzab

so u see he was ordered not to marry others than he already have even if he was attracted by their beauty.

Yes he married our mother Aisha very young and I mentioned the reason, but I will mention it again

1- At that era of time it was usual for girls to marry at that age, or when she reaches puberty age. And in the arabic peninsula girls reach that stage at very early age because of its hot climate, even the jews themselves used to marry their girls at such early age, one of them was our mother Safia(her father was one of the biggest jewish masters in Madina) she was married at age 12 because she saw a vision that the moon was sitting in her lap when she told her father he slapped her and told her: u want to marry the prophet of Arabs.? and he forced her to marry one old man, so that she would not marry the prophet, but then he was dead after a battle with the Muslims and

the prophet married her after she became Muslim(this proved her vision, and visions are always from God).

2- Being Young, she will be able to learn and memeorize everything taught to her by the prophet, she was raised by him, learning the Quran the hadith, and she become a scholar at that time, she uesd to teach the sahaba, and rectify them if they were wrong, she used to teach women their relegion because there were some sensitive cases that the prophet would be shy to answer to ladies, she would because if it happened with her she will ask him and and he will give her the right answer. so were his other wives, also they learned relegion from him, they were pious respectful women. And most of the

knowledge we know now and that is written in books that we are taught and

men are making masters degrees and doctorate in various Islamic science is from our mother Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) and all our mothers.

3- she was the daughter of Alsadeeg Abu baker who was the first man to beleive in him, he aided him with his money and he immegrated with him to Madina, and he was his best friend, and

out of gratitude to his friend and to strengthen the friendship he married his daughter.

So these are the most important elements he married our mother Aisha, yes he loved her more than the others, but he was just in treating his wives, he never treated one better than another, but he never loved her(Aisha) more than our mother Khadija(may Allah be pleased with her, that she(Aisha may Allah be pleased with her) was sometimes envious of her(even in her grave) because the prophet loved her a lot, she stood beside him beleived in him helped him with everything she has, and he never married another woman until she died, he could have married another young girl being very young at the age of 25 and she 40 but he did not. After her he married our mother Sawda bint zuma' she was an old lady as well, after that he married our mother Aisha.So if I will write about all his marriages here and the reason for them it will take a very long post I hope this is enough to show that marriage in Islam is not merely for lust, yes it is a way to breakdown your feelings in the right path, but a man should respect his wife and treat her well, and if he wants to marry he should tell her first and it is up to her if she continous her life with him or not. and if she accepts Allah will retribute her in the heavens. For me I would prefer my husband marry anothar woman than commiting adultry with another woman, like this I feel that I am respected that he told me and that he is not going with bad women behind my back, this is what Allah asked us to do and we are pleased by his commands, he created us he knows what is best for us.

In the Holy Quran Allah Almighty says:

In the name of Allah the Most Gracious the Most Merciful:

1. O Prophet! Why do you ban (for yourself) that which Allâh has made lawful to you, seeking to please your wives? And Allâh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

2. Allâh has already ordained for you (O men), the dissolution of your oaths. And Allâh is your Maula (Lord, or Master, or Protector, etc.) and He is the All-Knower, the All-Wise.

3. And (remember) when the Prophet () disclosed a matter in confidence to one of his wives (Hafsah), so when she told it (to another i.e. 'Aishah), and Allâh made it known to him, he informed part thereof and left a part. Then when he told her (Hafsah) thereof, she said: "Who told you this?" He said: "The All-Knower, the All-Aware (Allâh) has told me".

4. If you two (wives of the Prophet , namely 'Aishah and Hafsah) turn in repentance to Allâh, (it will be better for you), your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet likes), but if you help one another against him (Muhammad ), then verily, Allâh is his Maula (Lord, or Master, or Protector, etc.), and Jibrael (Gabriel), and the righteous among the believers, and furthermore, the angels are his helpers.

5. It may be if he divorced you (all) that his Lord will give him instead of you, wives better than you, Muslims (who submit to Allâh), believers, obedient to Allâh, turning to Allâh in repentance, worshipping Allâh sincerely, fasting or emigrants (for Allâh's sake), previously married and virgins. 66 Surat al Tahreem.

So here he said he will replace him with beleivers, obedient, worshiping to Allah, fasting women, which means pious respectful women and not beautiful lucious women.

May Allah accept from me, if I am right it is from Allah alone and if I am wrong it is from my ignorance and little knowledge.