11-24-2003, 12:22 PM
Assalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah,
Look, let's look at the history of great men. Before that, we place a principle: For every principle are exceptions, okay, agree.
1) The Messenger, sallallahu 'alayhi wa salam married some 13 times, and what I don't understand, what is this 'excuse' that some people are coming out with, the Messenger, sallallahu 'alayhi wa salam used to live on bread crumbs some times - did that stop him from marrying more than one?
2) The Four righteous khulafaa` from after him: Abu Bakr, 'Umar, 'Uthmaan and 'Ali all married plenty of times, and wasn't it 'Umar who used to have nothing to offer his guests but some bread, flour and a water?!
3) Plenty of the companions, al-Mugheera bin Shu'bah, the great Mujaahid, was said to have broken the virginity of over one hundred women. Wives, and slaves. al-Hasan bin 'Ali married, according to a correct saying, over 200 times. The examples are more than well-known, and I don't need to mention names.
4) Every single ruler - to my knowledge - from Bani Ummayah married more were polygnous. Every single one, wallahu a'lam.
5) In recent times, let's have a look:
Usaamah bin Laaden: Three wives.
Abu Muhammed al-Maqdisi: Two wives.
'Abduraheem at-Tahaan: Four wives.
Ahmad al-Qattaan: Four wives.
Ahmad Shaakir: Two wives.
Shaamil Basayev: Two/Three wives.
'Umar 'Abdurahmaan: Two wives.
This is thinking very quicly, and thinking of BIG names, I'm certain I could find more if I wanted to.
Obviously, there are exceptions: Ayman ath-Thawaahiri, only had one wife, 'alaya rahmatullah. 'Abdullah 'Azzam, only one. I'm not sure about al-Mullah 'Umar, hafithahullah wa nasarah, but I've heard he only has one.
Now a question, and I know most bro's will not respond to it: but would you not like to have more than one wife?
It's mans nature, we want to change, mix, its better, I'll give you an example which I use quite a lot: If I have one cup, and I always use the same cup, one day, it will break, whether I like it or not. There is a high likeliness that it breaks - even if I don't intend. If however I have two, three, or four cups; I can mix, I use this one once, that one once, and so on. Therefore, all of them are preserved and maintained. Put it this way: you have one wife, you see her every single day (which is the case most of the time), eventually, it becomes boring. Can anyone argue? On the other hand, you have two, three or four, you see this one one day, you miss the other one, she misses you, you want to be with her. Then you miss the other one, she misses you, you want to be with her. So there's always life in the marriage there, there's always excitement, and so on.
Yes, we know women are jealous, women hate their husband to have more than one wife, even the most pious of women, the Messengers wives, split into two parties: the younger wives, and the older wives and they, you could say, declared war on each other.
But no one can question, or deny that this is mens nature whether you like it or not.
- Abu Dujanah.
(Yep, and I know this post will make me really unpopular, but its the truth )
PS: (*according to Musalim, best is to have 3 wives at a time* to spend two days of the week at each house, and one day stay SINGLE and save your head from headache of wives, nagging and children demands lol)