10-07-2003, 11:58 AM
Aslaam alikum
Simply if we want to obey Allah and profit we have to stop thinking what we like or dislike
If sister like to do good deeds for sake of Allah they should themselves see if their husbands are surfing from their capabilities which could be intentionally or unintentionally they have either to accept the poylgyny and thank Allah for his mercy on us who allow a solution for his creation to avoid evil acts from us
If we are not accepting Allah commands simply we will suffer from Allah punishments in our life and hereafter
I leave in Saudi Arabia when poylgyny is normal and acceptable by most of women and I heard that they are even looking for their husbands to find a good wife
Even I heard that some of them the accept living together sharing same bedroom
Allah mercy on us we never understand it by our limited knowledge but we have to get the feeling of faith that if it is only for the saake ofa Allah
That not means women is less than men in Islam but Allah well known what the men could need but women is more important in islam because they have been created for a major tasks that to be the factory of creating and loving and caring of one family at a time
And Allah mercy that every thing else is supporting women even if husbands died Allah has commands all of us to take care of them with big rewards and thier kids (Allah wa akber)
Even if women reject to stay with a second wife she can ask for divorce but she will take less rewards from Allah and she could destroy fatherhood and motherhood for their kids
Some of you ladies will say this selfishness from men to get second wife again I will say this not true because if Allah allow that we should know this is a blessing from Allah if men need it and he can be fair between the two wife other wise he is not allowed to do so
If my opinion is right is from Allah and if I am wrong is from me and sit an