08-23-2003, 11:08 AM
Assalamalyakum sister, thanks for adding to my post and clarifying.
However, I am guessing that you didn't quite get my point.
The subject of Islam is a tricky one. Because many people are angered and come to fast conclusions when they first read something different from what they normally believe.
I have been a muslim for a long time and I have studied. I do not understand Arabic. One of the achievements I would like to make in my life is prove that one can understand Islam and live by Allah's rules, yet not understand Arabic. (I do pray in Arabic)
One of the first things that my family faced me with when I became muslim was "why isn't it in English?"
The quran is simple sisters. There is nothing difficult about understanding it.
It says only marry if you can be fair. And then it says you cannot be fair. Therefore, though he is allowed if he can afford it, he cannot be fair to two of them.
So the very simple answer is still there for all to easily understand. A man can never be fair between two women.
My point was this, yes we can watch the prophet and his wives and live our lives accordingly. But, also that Allah used them to set examples. To test his people from those who may not be his people.
I am glad Suhail786 to be a part of this posting. The only way to understand Islam is to read and post, in other words. Read and speak.
Please sister when you feel the need to administer to my posts, do so.
I am am American sister and to Americans Love is a very important part of life. However, in Islam this very subject is clear sisters we may not always receive the love as Americans we expect. It is the very shock that sends many of us back towards Christianity or at the least making it difficult for us to stick out a marriage. It is a subject that needs to be addressed and dealt with if marriages towards converts to Islam and Middle Eastern marriages are ever going to work.
And we need these marriages to take place and work. I know as a new muslim some 26 yrs ago. I needed that support.
ummibrehim.