08-23-2003, 09:19 AM
Quote:<i>Originally posted by ummibrehim </i><b>Assamamalyakum sister. </b>
I have thought about polymagy a lot with an open and unjudging mind, as I am sure most muslims have.
First point. To ask your husband not to marry a second wife is probably the best approach any muslim woman can take. I say this following the example of the prophets daughter Fatimah.
This situation is totally different, Ali wanted to marry daughter of Abu Jahl, so the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said the daughter of Rasulu Allah and daughter of the enemy of Allah shall never gather under one man. So the issue was not for Ali to remarry, but rather marry the daughter of the enemy of Allah.
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Second point. I almost hate to make this point because I get so many muslims telling me I am wrong. However, I still lean in this general direction. The prophet made it clear that he and his immediate family of wives were not like other people. (The hadith about this I do not actaully have in front of me to quote right now.)
In this, Allah in the Quran described mothers of the believers as:\"O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women\" (Quran 33:32). Simply because they were not allowed to remarry had the Prophet divorced them or after his death. So this rule is restricted on them only. For the same purpose he was the only one allowed to keep more than 4 wives. He was not allowed to replace any of them, because they are bound to be his wives in Jannah. In case they remarry then they will be wives of the last husband as u probably know. So it is not that they have a total different life style restricted on them. Specially in terms of polygyny. But rather the issue is they are different in this sense. In addition to other forms of worship which were a fard (obligatory) on the Messenger of Allah only such as Tahajud.
Hope I added something to clarify this point to u Ummibrehim
Ummibrehim