Bismillah:
Quote:Tell them to take it up with the boss's Son :) Just because a doctrine inconveniences you, doesn't mean it should be changed. If anything, we need to adapt our lives to suit the truth.
I guess you should tell them this by yourself; because I also don’t like such law the same way they do.
Quote:I respect Islam's position on divorce. I just don't agree with it.
Yes we also do respect your faith, but we don’t agree with it. that is just fair.
Quote:I have the utmost respect for the Koran because it's the spiritual text for Muslims. God handed down to Moses the 10 Commandments (& various other revelations), but not the idea of divorce. God permits wrongdoing but He is not the cause of it.
<b>You blow my mind</b>… all Christians whom I met (<b>including catholic priests</b>) wholeheartedly believe that every <b>word, comma and full stop </b> in the Bible were inspired by God. Paul also said that <b>all scriptures were inspired by God</b>, <b>INCLUDING THE IDEA OF DIVORCE</b>. Otherwise, <b>this part of the Bible should be thrown out if it was not inspired by God and it was only man made idea.
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Quote:No one enters a marriage thinking it'll be unsuccessful. Therefore, no one should exit a marriage thinking it can't be successful. There's no such thing as "unsuccessful marriage" in the Bible.
But the Almighty God should have a solution all of our problems, and we are talking about serious problem here.
Quote:Both parents should raise their kids. Finance is the least of their problems.
But in practice this is not the case, oh man, <b>how I wish that you visit Philippines one day, it is the living example of how separation is totally evil. </b>
Quote:<b>the husband by nature cannot always live without partner</b>
I'm in no way/shape/form a feminist, but this statement seems odd to me.
Why?
Quote:Separation is temporary only! Mutual effort should always be made to resolve marital problems. This requires sacrifice. You need to give & take.
<b>Ok, I totally agree</b>, but if things never work out after <b>all kind of mutual efforts to resolve the problem</b>, then what your Bible say in this case? <b>No solution offered</b>, and so Islam gives the answer.
Although divorce being allowed in Islam is a sign of the lenience and practical nature of the Islamic legal system, keeping the unity of the family is considered a priority for the sake of the children. For this reason, divorce is always a last choice, after exhausting all possible means of reconciliation. For example, Allah addresses men asking them to try hard to keep the marriage, even if they dislike their wives:
... live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good.
chapter 4 Verse 19
Also the following verse is addressed to women asking them the same thing:
If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves;
...Chapter 4 Verse 128
Again, the following verse is addressed to the family or the society for the same purpose of rescuing this bond, which God did not make easy to break:
If ye fear a breach between them twain, appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family, and the other from hers; if they wish for peace, God will cause their reconciliation: For God hath full knowledge, and is acquainted with all things.
chapter 4 Verse 35
But, if after exhausting all methods of reconciliation, the hatred between the husband and wife is still greater than tolerance, then divorce becomes inevitable. <b>Here comes the genius of the Islamic law</b>, <b>which holds practical, rather than unrealistic approaches</b>, <b>towards real situations.</b> The ultimate aims of marriage, as well as any other aspect of human life, <b>are to achieve happiness and virtue</b>. So,<b> when people are denied their right to end an unhappy marriage, these two aims are seriously violated</b>. This is, as the couple will live in suffering, which may lead them to marital infidelity. <b>Thus divorce in this case – if weighed up to the disaster of family disintegration - will be less disastrous. </b>
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Wael