08-14-2006, 06:45 AM
Bismillah
as salam alykom
Thank u very much reepi for this informative reply.
Nasrah, the aim of marriage if u r fertile and healthy is to be grateful to Allah and procreate your own children.
Thus, deciding not to have children is like rejecting Allah's bounty and this is my own opinion, since there are others whom Allah Made infertile and just striving and making every effort including of course Dua to have just one child. Our aim when we marry is to formulate a Muslim family of our own lineage.
As I mentioned in my reply, and it is confirmed in the reply reepi posted, that protecting lineage is very important. Adopting children and taking them as yours create mutliple problems of them, lineage, plus of course that the individual is not a real son/daughter which may create temptions.
Surat Yusuf has a clear example of this when the woman who raised him turned to be extremly fond of him to the extend of calling him for Haram or jail.
Hope u got the idea. And the reply had a lot of cannt because this is the case.