01-08-2005, 08:18 PM
Bismillah
as salam alykom brother welcome back
It has been a long time, hope all is well with u
as for the first question, are these arabic words? if yes can u tell me the source I can not seem to be able to make up what they are.
Brother in regard to the second point Sobhan Allah, I was just discussing on the phone with someone the issue of being harmed and how to handle. Regardless the aggressor is older or not. See we must as Muslims invest such situations, the one who harms u is busy with u, thinking what to do to harm u, thinking how to impose more obstacles in your way.
In such case u have 2 options:
either to try and answer back which will tak u to the same road as his/her, which is being busy with the person, wasting your time and effort on how to hurt, harm, destroy, setting plans....etc.
Or leave it to Allah, bring it to Allah, make much dua for Allah to grant this person a better moral, better religion, better understanding of Allah, for Allah to protect u and keep u safe from all evil.
Sobhan Allah brother u see miracles.
Just think of this, when your child is harmed thru his/her peers, it depend how huge the harm is, usually if it is very huge the child seeks the father's help.
Aoudhbillah I am not of course exmplifiying Allah, but when u resort to Allah He Manifests in ways that u can not imagine.
As for the parents issue. what may see unfair to u is relevant. The conflict can be better looked at as parents are normally very compassion about the children but children sometimes see this differently. They see it as control, unfair ...ect. Whereas sometimes when the same attitude or advice comes from freinds children usually accept.
Just bear in mind that the motive of parents attitude is always deep love and concern. From this u can go on.
Hope I helped