Bismillah
as salam alykom dear brothers and sisters
I am here for a totally different reason, to try and explain the brothers Intuition over heard. Making the comments they made, and this is just my own opinion, does not mean in any way a less level of committment
. People are different yes, but it does not mean they are less committed. But rather they are being honest to themselves. People's difficulties with religious rules differ from one to another. I am not trying to go off topic but that is exactly why Allah Allowed men marry more than 1. He Knows His creation best. May Allah support them.
As far as us, as long as we dont attempt or put on purpose seductive factor including the attitude and all, then Alhamdulelah we are fine, it depends on the intention. Why u put Niqab, or abide by the dress code. It all depends on the intention.