Forced Marriages

Imam Ibn Taymiyyah

May a father force his virgin daughter who attained puberty to marry?

Two well-known opinions in this regard are reported from Ahmad:

That he may compel her. This is also the opinion of Maalik, ash-Shaafi`ee, and others. That he may not. This is also the opinion of Aboo Haneefah and others, and is the correct one.

People have differed as tot he reason permitting the compulsion: whether it is virginity, the daughter being under-aged, or a combination of both. The closest opinion to the truth is her being under-aged, whereas no one can compel a grown-up virgin in marriage. Aboo Hurayrah, radhiallahu `anhu reported that the Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam, said:

"A non-virgin woman may not be married without her command, and a virgin may not be married without her permission; and enough permission for her is to remain silent (because of her natural shyness)." [Al-Bukhaaree, Muslim, and others]

Thus the Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam, prohibits forcing a virgin in marriage without her permission, whether it be her father or someone else. Furthermore, `Aa';ishah, radhiallahu `anhaa, said that she asked the Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam, "In the case of a young girl whose parents marry her, should her permission be sought or not?" He replied, "Yes, she must give her permission." She then said, "But a virgin will be shy, O Allaah’s Messenger." He answered:

"Her silence is [considered as] her permission." [Al-Bukhaaree, Muslim, and others]

This applies to the father as well as others. Furthermore, Islaam does not give the father the right to use any of her wealth without her permission, how then could he be allowed to decide, without her permission, how her body (which is more important than her wealth) is to be used, specially when she disagrees to that and is mature to decide for herself?

Also, there is evidence and concensus in Islaam to restrict an underage person’s free control of his wealth or person. However, to make a virginity a reason for the restriction contradicts the Islaamic basis.

As for the difference between the non-virgin and virgin in the hadeeth of the Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam, it is not a differentiation between compulsion and non-compulsion; the difference between the two cases is that (a) the former gives her instructions for the marriage whereas the latter gives permission, and that ( the virgin’s silence counts as a permission. The reason for this is that a virgin would be shy to discuss the matter of marriage, so she is not proposed to directly; rather, her walee (guardian) is approached, he takes her permission, and then she gives him the permission not the command to marry her.

And as for a non-virgin, she would not have the shyness of virginity anymore; thus she can discuss the matter of her marriage, she can be proposed to, and she gives the command to her walee to perform the marriage, and he must obey her.

Thus the walee is command-executor in the case of the non-virgin, and is permission-seeker in the case of the virgin. This is what the Prophet's words indicate. As for compelling her to marry despite her loathing to do so, this would contradict the fundamentals and reason. Allaah ta`ala did not permit a walee to force her to sell or rent her property without her permission. Neither did He permit him to force her to eat or drink or wear that which she does not wish.

How would He then oblige her to accompany and copulate with a person whose company she hates - at the time when Allaah ta`ala has sent between the two spouses love and mercy? If such company happens despite her hatred and repulsion, where is the love and mercy? .

Translated by Aboo `Abdillaah Muhammad al-Jibaalee

(1) <b>Hadrat Abu Hurairah reports that the Holy prophet said:</b> “ I wear by him in whose hand is my soul: The son of Mary shall descend among you, as a just ruler. Then he will break the cross, and kill the swineA , and put an end to war (in another Tradition, there is the word jizyah instead of Herb(War), meaning that he will abolish of Jizyah;b then there will be such abundance of wealth that nobody will like to accept it, and (conditions will be such that) performing of one sajada (prostration) before Allah will be considered better that the world and what it contains.” (Bukhari: Kitab Ahadith al-Anbiya, bab Nuzul’Isa Ibn Maryam; Muslim: bab Nuzul’Isa: Tirmizhi: Abwabul Fitan, Bab fi Nuzul ‘Isa; Musnad Ahmad: Marwiyat Abu Hurairah). (2) Another Tradition from Hadrat Abu Hurairah is to the effect: “Resurrection will not take place until Jesus son of Mary has descended…” (This is followed by the same theme as reported in the above-cited Tradition). (Bukhari: Kitab al-Mazalim, Bab Kasr as-Salab, Ibn Majah: Kitab al-Fitan).

(3) <b>Hadrat Abu Hurairah reports that the Holy Prophet said:</b> “How will you be when the son of Mary will descend among you, and your Imam at that time will be from among yourselves? [1] [1](Bukhari: Kitab Ahadith Anbiya’, Bab Nuzul’Isa: Muslim: Nuzul’Isa; Musnad Ahmad).

(4)<b> Hadrat Abu Hurairah has reported that the holy Prophet said:</b> “Jesus son of Mary shall descend; then he will kill the swine and destroy the Cross [2] [2]; and a congregation will be held for him for the Prayer; and he will distribute so much wealth that people will be satiated with it; and he will abolish the tribute; and he will encamp at Rauha’, [3] [3] and from there will go to perform Hajj or “Umrah, or both.” (The reporter is in doubt as to what exactly the Holy Prophet said). (Musnad Ahmad: Marwiyat Abu Hurairah; Muslim: Kitab al-Hajj).

(5) <b>Hadrat Abu Hurairah reports that the Holy Prophet (after making mention of the appearance of the Dajjal) said: </b>“In the meantime, when the Muslims will be making preparations to fight him, will be lining u (for the Prayer) and the Iqamah will have been pronounced, Jesus son of Mary shall descend and lead them in the Prayer; and the enemy of Allah (Dajjal i.e. the Antichrist) on seeing him alone, he would melt to death anyway, but Allah will have him killed at his hand, and he will show his blood on this spear to the Muslims.” (Mishkat: Ikitab al-Fitan, with reference to Muslim).

(6) <b>Abu Hurairah reports that the Holy Prophet said:</b> “There is not prophet between me and him (i.e. Jesus Christ), and he shall descend. So, recognize him when you see him. He is a man of medium height, of ruddy and fair complexion; he will be dressed in two yellow garments; the hair of his head will appear as though water was going to trickle down from it, whereas it will not be wet. He will fight people in the cause of Islam, will break the Cross and kill the swine and will abolish jizyah; and Allah will put an end to all communities in his time except Islam [4] [4]; and he will slay the Antichrist (Dajjal); and he will stay in the world for 40 years; the will die and the Muslims will offer the funeral Prayer for him.” (Abu Da’ud: Kitab al-Malahim; Musnad Ahmad: Marwiyat Abu Hurairah).

(7) <b>Hadrat Jabir bin ‘Abdullah says that he heard the Holy Prophet say;</b> “…then Jesus son of Mary will descend. The leader of the Muslims will say, “No: you yourselves are leaders over one another. [5] [5] This he will say in view of the honor that Allah has bestowed on this Community.” (Muslim: Bayan Nuzul “Isa Ibn Maryam; Musnad Ahmad: Marwiyat Fabir bin ‘Abdullah).

(8) <b>Jabir bin ‘Abdullah reports (in connection with the story of Ibn Sayyad:</b> “Then, “Umar bin al-Khattab submitted; O Messenger of Allah, permit me to kill him. The Messenger of Allah replied: If he is the same person (i.e. the Dajjal), then you will not kill him, but he will be killed by Jesus son of Mary. And if he is not he (i.e. the Dajjal), then you have no right to kill a man from among the dhimmis.” (Mishkat: Kitab al-fitan).

as salam alykom I received this excellent article about Riba on an email thought to share it with u.

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Yesterday my husband was explaining to the realtor how we can only buy a home with cash because our religion forbids us to deal with interest. Subhana-Allah!!! The realtor told my husband that he works with Muslims all the time and that Muslims LIVE and BUY on interest, Astagh Ferrullah! He told my husband that we are the first Muslims to say it is not permitted in the religion.

Allah (SWT) says,

"Those who eat Riba (interest) will not stand (on the Day of Resurrection) except like the standing of a person beaten by Shaitan leading him to insanity. That is because they say: "Trading is only like Riba (interest)," whereas Allah has permitted trading and forbidden Riba (interest). So whosoever receives an admonition from his Lord and stops eating Riba (interest) shall not be punished for the past; his case is for Allah (to judge); but whoever returns (to Riba: interest), such are the dwellers of the Fire - they will abide therein." (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:275)

The Prophet (SAW) cursed the one who consumes Riba and the one who pays it and the scribe who writes the contract, and the witnesses to it; and said, "They are equal (in sin)." (Sahih Muslim).

So hear O Muslims! Allah (SWT) has made trading halal (lawful) and riba haram (unlawful). Whoever receives an admonition from his (or her) Lord and stops eating the Riba (interest), stops paying the Riba (interest), stops witnessing the Riba (interest), and anything that is connected to the Riba (interest), shall not be punished for that which happened in the past, his (or her) case is for Allah (to judge)! Whoever returns to Riba (interest) will be a dweller of the Fire! In this particular verse brothers and sisters in Islam, Allah (SWT) is explaining to us that this thing called Riba (interest) is destructive, that it lands us a seat in the Fire! Anybody who hears these words from their Creator, who does not shake and shiver, something has to be wrong with them!

Listen to this true story brothers and sisters, about two or three young men who caught this woman, put a sack over her head, drug her into the basement and raped her repeatedly. They kept on raping her and raping her and raping her, over and over again. Then they said to each other, "Let's take the sack off her head and see how she looks." It was one of the young men's mother! It was one of the young men's mother! It was one of the young men's mother! THIS is what Allah (SWT) and His Messenger (SAW) say about Riba (interest):

"Riba (interest) has seventy parts and the LEAST of it is like a man (or woman) having sex with his (or her) own (biological) mother."

The LEAST of it is like having sex with our very own, biological, mother! How in the world after reading these verses and reading this hadith can we say, "We don't have enough room for our children, we can't live in an apartment" and then go out and get a loan on a house?

Brothers and sisters! Image your mother, perfuming herself, putting on some nice lipstick and some real nice provactive clothes, you turning down the lights then going into the room with her and lying in the bed with her! Think about this for a second! Brothers and sisters BOTH think about this because this hadith is not specifically talking to the men!

Think about it! Do we still not have enough room for our children? Can we still not live in an apartment? Do we not even care that Allah (SWT) and His Prophet (SAW) said these words about this great sin, that it is one of the seven great destructive sins along with shirk (Sahih Al-Bukhari)? How can we take it so lightly?

Brothers and sisters! There are NO fire extinguishers or fire escapes in the Fire! How can we take this thing so lightly? We talk about that sister who wears black from head to toe covering everything EVEN her face and hands!!! Yet, WE have a mortgage on a condo! We talk about that brother with the long beard whose pant legs are always above his ankles. Yet, WE have a bank loan on a house! OUR Discover card is maxed out! OUR payment is due on the Toyota! Why do we take Riba (interest) so lightly?

We love this dunya! When we get a little uncomfortable and want to make this life our Jennah we don't run to Allah (SWT), we run for the dunya! The Prophet (SAW) said,

"The dunya is a prison for a believer and paradise for the disbeliever!" (Sahih Muslim)

"Do not love this world, and Allah will love you, and do not have a longing for that which people have, and they will love you." (Ibn Majah)

Brothers and sisters! Right now today, Insha-Allah!!! We have to take this thing called Riba (interest) seriously, Insha-Allah! Listen to Allah (SWT) and obey:

"O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah and give up what remains from Riba (interest) (from now onward), if you are (really) believers!" (Surah Al-Baqara 2:278)

Ya Allah! Guide the Muslims, Ameen!

sorry guys its a bit late .............

remeber guys this is our third holy place we never talk about it on herehttp://batleymuslim***ociation.org.uk/

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Salam Alaikum...ف dont know if it ok to write but ف do...i m so much hopeles in almosteveryhink. 4 Example to enter Jannah...Sometimes i wish to die than i think when i die i m also there hopeless there when Allah swt dont have mercy to me..ف'm between this world and acheraat...Wassalam

Salam Alaikum...Which way is better to learn english. There is no one ف ccan talk english real...ف just try to learn such so on boards to get my english better...ف cant speak very good (so Allah allow me) turk‎sh and german but i ll learn arabic and english...For arabic ف ll take class with some arabic speakers in my country but english is diffucult..فt is possible to learn english online or so??? فs there any1....Jazakallahu Khayran....wassalam

Asalam~O~Alykum sisters

I know I know that a lot of ppl talked about the same issue that I am inshallah going 2 talk about 2day, but 4 once listen from a teen just like u. Who heard and saw the same things as u did. What I am going 2 write about 2day is about dating and running after boys.

Gurls look at ur self. First it starts out by only chatting. U lie 2 ur self and say it wont hurt b/c he cant c me or I cant c him. Second u lie 2 ur parents when they ask u who is online. U say its one of my best friends. Third u send him ur pic. Fourth u agree 2 met. Fifth u met in a romantic place and u start holding hands. Sixth he offers u 2 come 2 with him 2 his apartment. Seventh u loose everything.

This is only one way 2 loose everything. There is 100000000000000000 of ways. Like hanging at the mall wearing ur sexy clothes and u have lots of makeup on 2 attract boys. Or talking on the cell phone and ur address book is full of boys numbers and e-mail addresses.

Well u c. What I am talking about. Gurls ur selling ur self's sooooooooooooo easily. None of the boys now r trying 2 get the gurl they want b/c ur already left ur self 2 them. Al Rasool (ASWS) went in 2 war just b/c a woman who a part of her was shown. And now these days no one have 2 play a trick on a gurl just 2 make her show a part of her body. Now a days u c gurls who r almost naked.

OK lets us do this. Let us count the amount of sins we made 2 just attract a guy. One lying. two cheating. Three steeling. U could steel ur mums car or money just 2 c the guy. The look of the men on the street or the place where u going 2 ur body. Four sexual affairs. And soooooo on. C u just got ur self more than 10000000000 sins every day. U cant afford loosing any of ur good deeds b/c they wont fill in the places of ur sins. I feel sooooooooo sad when I c a Muslim gurl who parys on time and fast and give out charity loss her7sanat just like that.

Gurls ask ur self one question is it worth it. Is it worth it running after a man and loosing everything including Heaven and Allah’s forgiveness. Was it worth it all that cheating and lying 2 ur parents and 2 ur self. Or the time u wasted from ur life running after a fake dream. Couldn't u Waite until marriage. Hold ur self gurls b/c after death no one will help u. Gurls ur the most important part of the world and society. Ur the one who is going 2 create the new generation of Muslims. Y waste a life time happiness 4 one night.

Gurls think about it and give ur self a chance 2 reconsider what ur doing with ur life. Sisters don't feel shy 4 asking 4 advise. Even if its from ur parents. B/c parents knows best.

Hope Allah will protect all of ur sisters and brothers and keep them same from Al Shytan and themselves.

Salam~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Sally Samy

Asalam~O~Alykum sisters

What I am going 2 write about 2day something I think a lot of ppl talked about, but still some ppl don't listen. I know al7amduallah that most sisters on this website wear al7amduallah hijab, but still there r sisters who don't ware it. I want 2 ask one question Why? Why some sisters refuse 2 wear it? What is ur reason? Ask ur self one question what r u going 2 say when u stand in front of Allah when he asks u why didn't u wear it? Will u tell him that u wanted 2 attract men or that u were afraid of what might ppl say about u. Or other 1000000000000 reasons. The most important thing u miss is what will allah thinks and wants of u. Why do u care soooooooooooooooooo much about what ppl say and think and just dont give ur self a chance 2 ask ur self what allah will think. Sisters plz give ur self a chance 2 reconsider what is the most important thing 2 u what allah thinks and wants or what the ppl thinks and wants.

I added a link from Amr Khaled's website that talks about hijab. Hope u will take a few mins out of ur time 2 listen 2 it. It really helps. Plz copy and past it 2 ur search bar.

Salam~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Sally Samy

http://www.amrkhaled.net/ar/amr/modules....load&cid=1

Asalam~o~Alykum sisters

Remmber my friend who wrote the other poem that is called Too Late.... Well here is a new peom she wrote.

Salam~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Sally Samy

Something To Consider…

Here’s something to consider… here’s something to all mankind…

Do you ever feel empty? Like your soul is hard to find?

Did you ever think of what it could be?

Open up your eyes ask yourself and see…

What’s it worth?

Does it compare?

You have the urge to dress tightly…

If you stop and think you’ll realize He’s Truly Almighty.

In His Heaven, you get to wear silk and all that you may desire,

Dress like a queen, like you own an empire.

What’s it worth?

Does it compare?

You have the urge to look beautiful, so you use makeup all the time,

You think it’s okay you don’t realize it’s worse than a crime.

Allah Understands and that’s why he Allows us,

To explore these urges, where there will be no fuss.

What’s it worth?

Does it compare?

You have the urge to date, the urge to allow your desire to live,

You want to love, be loved, you want to take, you want to give.

That’s all a scene from a dream,

See what Allah will give you in marriage, if all of that you redeem.

What’s it worth?

Does it compare?

You have the urge to copy homework and cheat,

By any means, you want your grade to be complete.

Even if those means disappoint the One Above,

Does it mean anything to you that you’re losing His Love?

What’s it worth?

Does it compare?

You have the urge to do all of this and then you cry?

You didn’t think when you said Oh what’s one lie?

For this ignorance you shall pay,

Because you continued to ignore, even when blessed night and day.

What’s it worth?

Does it compare?

Through heaven and hell think if it really does compare,

If you really think about it you wouldn’t dare,

To disappoint Allah, and follow your urge,

You’ll find true happiness, and for your soul you shall purge.

What’s it worth?

Does it compare?

If you think that it is worth something to follow your desire,

Then even for just a split second place your finger in fire.

If you can handle the pain and heat with ease,

Then give yourself license to do and say as you please.

What’s it worth?

Does it compare?...

- Salma Sidki

Asalam~O~Alykum sisters

This is a poem wrote, by a very good poet. She is not famous but she is really good. In fact she is one of my best friends and I want 2 share with the whole world what her idea's and her very good work r really like. Zagah allah kol 5ear

Salam~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Sally Samy

Too Late..

How come I never realized that one day it would be too late?

Why didn't I stop her from going out on dates?

I saw her cheat and lie to her mom,

I saw her lying to go to the prom.

I thought one day she'd quit her acts,

Turn to Allah, His Quran, His Verses and His Facts.

All the time she cheated on tests,

I didn't stop her I thought someday she'd confess.

She thought it was cool to shoplift at the mall,

I never thought that someday she'd fall.

I always saw her being rude to her mom talkin back to her,

I couldn't see the truth I was blinded by a blur.

All her clothes were really tight,

Car accident, she's gone in a blink of an eye.

I never thought the time would come so fast for her to die.....

I can't help but think as I sit here and pray,

For Allah to protect her in the grave where she lay.

How didn't I realize it?How couldn't I see?

But then again wait.... why didn't she?

-Salma Sidki