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  Means and Advices for Women to Benefit From the Summer Vacation
Posted by: masriahmuslimah - 09-23-2003, 01:49 PM - Forum: Woman and family - No Replies


Asalam~O~Alykum

Written By: Shiekh Ibraheem Dawesh

Translated By: IslamWay Sisters Team

Woman is man’s counterpart, and his partner in life. In her haven, future men and good families grow…for every woman; daughter, sister and mother, I present these advices…

1. In every city, there are centers for quran inculcation during the summer. Dear sister, we urge you to participate in these centers.

Every mother and father should let their daughters go to these centers. We also ask you our sister, to guide and encourage your sisters to go to these centers to invest their time in the summer, or at least to meet other sisters who cooperate in doing good deeds.

2. During the summer vacation, there are a lot of weddings, occasions and meetings, where a large number of women gather. If we added the hours wasted in these meetings, we would find that about half of the summer vacation is wasted in doing almost nothing. Why don’t you use these occasions and meetings in listening to some lectures and lessons…? And why don’t you be the speaker yourself ? If you can’t do it, you can invite another sister who is a lecturer or ask the da’wa center in your city to find a lecturer for you.

Why do some women think that the da’wa activities are just for men and men only..! Why do they think that, enjoining what is right, and forbidding what is wrong is men’s job!!! In these weddings and occasions you might see tens of bad deeds, and wrong things like lewd singing, indecent clothes, photography, or any wrong thing, and in spite of that you don’t do anything about it, and you don’t say a word! A secret advice from you to one of the women who is doing a wrong thing, will give you a great reward from Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala …why do you deprive yourself from this great reward! Unfortunately, ignoring wrong things, as a complement, is the incurable ailment, that most of the women have these days. Listen to this verse and try to understand it; so that you know that it is your duty as it is men ‘s duty, Almighty Allah says:

“The Believers, men and women, are protectors, one of another: they enjoin what is just, and forbid what is evil: they observe regular prayers, practice regular charity, and obey Allah and His Messenger. On them will Allah pour His Mercy: for Allah is Exalted in power, Wise Allah hath promised to Believers - men and women - Gardens under which rivers flow, to dwell therein, and beautiful mansions in Gardens of everlasting bliss. But the greatest bliss is the Good Pleasure of Allah: that is the supreme felicity.” (Al-Tawba, 9:71)

You are obligated as any man to do these things…so what will you say to Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala when he asks you, why didn’t you do anything about the wrong deeds that you have seen? Every Muslim woman believes in doing good deeds, and loves to see them spread among her sisters…and I’m asking you… How do you think good deeds would spread among women, when you didn’t do anything to help that happen? How do you think good things would spread among women when there are those girls who spread bad novels and films among their friends in every occasion, and in the same time the pious woman is shy to distribute some religious guides or recorded lectures, and she might not even think about doing that… These occasions are great chances to educate our sisters how to invest their time in a good way.

Dear sister, we ask you to make da’wa to Allah, your ultimate goal and to take the mission of spreading good things among women, especially in the private occasions.

3. We hope that the mosques and the quraan inculcation centers arrange special courses for women, discussing the issues that concern them, such as:Menses and postpartum rules, divorce, treating your husband, raising kids, woman’s attitude towards Muslim issues. These courses should include special contests for women, summarizing some important books and researches, charity food, and anything related to women, in the way that they would benefit from it and make the best use of their time.

4. For every woman, we urge you to attend the symposiums held in your city, and listen to the lectures to benefit from them, and if you couldn’t attend all the lectures, you should at least choose some of them.

5. You should also encourage your sisters to attend these symposiums, and call them repeatedly to urge them to do that. Women waste a lot of time doing phone calls, Why don’t you make this time worthy, and use it to guide to good deeds. Even if you were not able to participate in these symposiums yourself, you will get the reward for guiding your sisters and encouraging them to do so.

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  Advices for Children to Benefit from the Summer Vacation
Posted by: masriahmuslimah - 09-23-2003, 01:44 PM - Forum: Woman and family - No Replies


Asalam~O~Alykum

Written By: Shiekh Ibraheem Dawesh

Translated By: IslamWay Sisters Team

Parents should urge their children to memorize quraan during the summer vacation and encourage them by all means, even by giving them a monetary reward for every chapter of the quraan or hadith memorized!. and of course there is a great reward from Allah for doing that.

1. During the summer vacation, our children's time is wasted in doing nothing, and we don't usually give them enough attention in this part of the year.

Most of the parents think that they have fulfilled their duty towards their kids, just by going on a trip with them. They never think about arranging a special program for this trip, like arranging some contests, and games, or helping them to practice any other activity.

It will be better If every family gathered the kids in some place, where the grownups share in watching and guiding them to do these things. It won't cost them anything if they cooperated and shared these times with their kids. Kids shouldn't be left alone without anyone to watch for them. And it will be much better, if all the parents in the same neighborhood arrange a certain program for their kids in any close park or lounge, where they can hire someone to look after the kids. These kinds of arrangements will sure protect the children from being out in the streets, and is the best way to benefit from their leisure time.

2. Unfortunately some youth never think about advising their own families and relatives, or guiding them to the good deeds! it will be a very good thing, if every young man or girl, gather his or her family and relatives in any place, a lounge or a summer camp, for several nights or even for one night, and arrange some programs, contests and games, through which he can give the advice, or distribute recorded lectures or articles.

Many people have already tried doing this and it was a great benefit for every one. Try doing that, and it will give you many rewards inshaa Allah, for reaching the next of kin, spreading good deeds, and da'wa to Almighty Allah

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  Prophetic Medicine: An Old Prescription for a New Era
Posted by: masriahmuslimah - 09-23-2003, 01:42 PM - Forum: Woman and family - No Replies


By Dr. Hossam Arafa

Most Commonly Documented Prophetic Remedies

Henna

Henna (scientifically known as lawsonia inermis) has been well known for a long time in the Muslim world. It is extensively grown in India and Sudan, and is used mainly for cosmetic purposes

. The plant is sometimes called the "Magic Plant" because it has a great healing effect, contains many healing substances like tannine and other glue-like substances, and it has an anti-microbial and an anti-viral effect. It is natural, inexpensive, and has no known sides effects when taken orally. Indications for its use are as follows:

Burns: It is very effective when applied to a first or second degree burn. It:

-reduces pain.

-reduces fluid loss from the burn site, which is important if the area is large.

-has an anti-microbial effect, and so reduces the risk of infection.

-sticks on the wound site until healing is complete.

-is easy to apply either in paste or powder form.

-is inexpensive and easily available.

Healing Properties: Henna promotes wound healing, especially chronic wounds and ulcers. The main cause of this is not known, but it may be its nourishing effect on the wound and its anti-microbial properties.

Anti-Hemorrhage Effect: Henna has proven to be efficient in the management of nose bleeding (epistaxis), providing a long-lasting cure. One dose is generally sufficient. It is more successful than cauterization, which normally has to be repeated and cannot guarantee that there will not be a recurrence of bleeding. The only side effect of henna here is that it can cause slight sneezing. Henna can be used at other sites like a bleeding duodenal ulcer or oesophageal varicose veins, with no known side effects. Its anti-bleeding effect may be due to its coagulation or local burning properties.

Anti-Viral Effect: Henna has an anti-viral effect. This is evident in its treatment of warts (particularly those that are resistant to liquid nitrogen treatment), Herpes Simplex (applied as a powder, it dries the vesicles at the site, prevents ulceration and crust formation, and prevents secondary infection). This benefit of henna is very promising, and should be explored further. It can also be used to treat AIDS.

Onion seed or hibat al-barakah (Nigella sativa)

This plant is found throughout India in the form of bushes, with blue flowers, that reach a height of approximately half a meter. It originally came from Turkey and Italy, and was brought to India by physicians to be cultivated. The seeds are black and triangular in shape, have a strong pungent smell, and contain a considerable amount of oil.

It is incorrect that Arabs learnt about its benefits from Greeks because, before the advent of Islam, there is no record of its use. Its therapeutic use was initiated after Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) mentioned its efficacy and its potential to cure. Abu Hurayrah states, "I have heard the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) say that there is cure for every disease in black seeds except death."

Khalid Ibn Sa`ad states that he was traveling with Ghalib Ibn Jabr when he (Ghalib) fell ill during the journey. Ibn Abi Ateeq (nephew of Ayesha) came to meet us. On seeing the distressed one, he took five or seven black seeds, ground them, mixed them in olive oil and dropped them into both his (Ghalib's) nostrils. Ghalib Ibn Jabr became healthy with this treatment.

Ayesha told us that the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) stated that there is cure in black seeds for all ailments except sam. I asked him, "What is sam?" He said, "Death."

Chemical Composition: The seeds contain 1.5 % volatile oil and 37.5 % non-volatile oil. In addition to this albumen, sugar, organic acids, glucoside, melanthin, metarbin and bitter substances are also found. The glucoside is toxic in nature; hence its in large doses and for a prolonged period may be harmful.

Its therapeutic uses are as follows:

-Zahbi stated that it removes the obstruction of any part of the body, expels the gases and strengthens the stomach.

-It is emmenagogue, lactogogue and a diuretic.

-It is an anti-helminthic, if taken with vinegar and useful with chronic colds.

-Its inhalation is beneficial in the treatment of common colds.

-Its oil is effective with alopecia (hair loss).

-Half a teaspoon, if boiled in water, is helpful for asthma and alleviates the toxic effects of bee and wasp stings.

-Continuous use of the seeds is effective for mad dog bites.

-Paralysis, facial palsy, migraine, amnesia and palpitations are also ailments which benefit from it.

-It can also be used as an expectorant and antipyretic.

-It normalizes the secretions of the stomach and pancreas. This is very effective in the treatment of Diabetes Mellitus.

-It expels stones in the kidney and bladder if taken with honey.

-It is effective in jaundice when taken with milk.

-Its powder, when taken with water, is good for hemorrhoids.

-If black seeds are boiled in vinegar and then applied to the teeth and gums, it reduces inflammation and pain of the gums.

-It is also reported that its fine powder is effective if applied in the early stages of cataracts.

-Black seed is also used for skin disorders.

-The oil is also effective in earache.

Olives

The olive, a sign of peace and friendship throughout the world, is described in the Holy Qur'an in Surat At-Teen.

Found extensively in Asia minor, Palestine, Greece, Portugal, Spain, Turkey, Italy, North Africa, Algeria, Tunisia, the state of California in America, Mexico, Peru and southern Australia, the olive plant stretches up to three meters in height. Its leaves are bright green and very attractive; and its fruits are bright bluish or violet in color. Although olives consumed straight from the plant are very nutritious, they are not usually eaten due to their metallic taste. A pickled version is consumed largely in Europe. Olives are preserved in vinegar and imported from Spain, Italy, France, Turkey and Greece, and are favored in Europe and Arab countries. Olive oil is a good preservative for other foods such as sardines and other fish.

The use of olives goes back to ancient times. Vessels full of olive oil have been found, among other articles, during the excavation of ancient Egyptian graves. According to the scholars of Hadith, when the Great Flood subsided, the first thing to be seen on the earth was an olive tree.

According to Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah, Sayyid Al-Ansari narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Eat olive oil and massage it over your bodies since it is a holy (mubarak) tree."

According to Ibn Al-Juzi, Zanbi, Alqama Ibn Amir narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said, "There is olive oil for you; eat it, massage it over your body, since it is effective for hemorrhoids." Basoor reported that Aqba Ibn Amir narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) stated, "You have the olive oil from this Holy (mubarak) tree; treat yourself with this, since it cures the anal fissure." Abu Na'im reported that Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) stated, "Eat the olive oil and apply it (locally), since there is cure for seventy diseases in it, [and] one of them is leprosy."

Composition:

Olive oil has a place in pharmacology in the U.S.A. and Britain. Both of these countries have attributed prime importance to olive oil in the treatment of various ailments, and have fixed standard parameters to evaluate its purity.

It contains palmatic acid, oleic acid, linoleic acid, steanic acid, myristic acid and glycerides. In this case, it is not dissolved in water but in alcohol, ether, chloroform and liquid paraffin.

The adulterant very often used in the olive oils found on the market is the seeds of the tea plant, arachis oil. Sometimes machine gun oil and refined machine oil are also found in it.

According to Ibn Al-Qayyim, the red colored oil is better than the blackish one. Its therapeutic uses are:

-It gives exuberance to the facial complexion.

-Prevention against poisons.

-Regulates the digestive process.

-Expels intestinal parasites.

-A good tonic, making the hair healthy, shiny and makes it stronger. Adds luster.

-A massage of olive oil with ordinary salt over the gums is a remedy for several diseases of the gums and teeth.

-Local application of olive oil or the water extracted from the crushed olive oil leaves is effective on boils, rashes and itching.

-Chronic ulcers and boils, which are difficult to heal, are healed with olive oil when applied locally.

-According to Zahbi, it strengthens the hair and body; hence can be used as a good tonic and for delaying the aging process.

-It helps raise a low libido.

-A combination of normal saline and olive oil is highly effective in burns.

-A soak of olive leaves in water is effective against mouth and lip ulcers, and dermatitis due to allergies.

-The concentrated watery solution of the extract of olive leaves and fruits is very effective against dental cavities and leukoplaquea in the mouth.

-This solution is applied along with vinegar for alopecia to enhance hair growth.

-It is also stated that the local application of this extract removes the scars of small pox and boils.

-Ground olive seeds mixed with butter is effective on brittle nails.

-Pickles prepared from olives are a good appetizer, and stop constipation.

-Its crushed leaves can be applied locally to check excessive perspiration.

-The water extracted from the leaves along with honey is used for ear drops and is effective in various ear ailments. The oil procured by burning the wood of the olive branch is effective against all fungal infections, e.g., ringworm, tenia, versicolor in addition to eczema, psoriasis, dandruff and alopecia.

-Applying olive oil on the scalp is highly effective against dandruff.

-It causes hair growth and reduces hair loss. The application of olive oil in the eyes relieves inflammation.

-A massage of olive oil all over the body tones up the muscles and organs, and relieves muscular pain.

-Some physicians also advocate a massage of olive oil for epilepsy.

-It relieves the sciatica and arthritis.

Ointment prepared from olive oil has very good healing agents:

-It heals the sinuses and fistuli very quickly.

-If taken internally, 25ml of olive oil mixed with 250ml of barley water is highly effective against chronic constipation.

-It is a good diuretic; hence is used in ascites.

-It removes kidney stones.

-In view of the research carried out in the U.S. and Britain, one concludes that it is good nourishment, particularly for kidney ailments where an intake of nitrogen containing protein is contraindicated.

-We mentioned already that the Prophet (pbuh) stated that it is a good remedy for anal fissure. Hence, patients were advised to take two spoonfuls of olive oil at bedtime and an ointment was applied on the fissure locally before sleeping and in the morning. The ointment is prepared from eight spoonfuls of olive oil and two spoonfuls of ground henna leaves.

-Its combination with other prescribed drugs of Prophetic Medicine is a good remedy for psoriasis and eczema.

-The impressions of several doctors practicing in Middle East and North Africa reveal that gastro-intestinal cancer is not detected among those who are used to consuming olive oil. Japanese doctors also endorse this, and have the opinion that olive oil prevents the incidence of cancer in the gastro-intestinal tract.

Siwak and Dental Hygiene

A variety of oral hygiene measures have been performed since the dawn of time. This has been verified by various excavations throughout the world where toothpicks, chew-sticks, twigs, linen strips, birds' feathers, animal bones and porcupine quills were recovered.

Those that originated from plants, although primitive, represent a transitional step towards the modern toothbrush. About 17 different plants have be used as natural instruments of oral hygiene.

The most widely used twig since early times is the Siwak or Miswak. The stick is obtained from a plant called salvadore persica that grows around Makkah and in the Middle East in general. Although there is no reference to the use of the siwak in the Qur'an, there are several hadith mentioning the benefits of siwak in maintaining oral hygiene; hence, it has been used widely among Muslims since the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). In this respect, our Prophet (pbuh) can be considered among the first dental instructors of proper oral hygiene.

Composition: Salvadora persica is a small tree or shrub with a crooked trunk that is seldom more than one foot in diameter. It has scabrous and cracked bark, and is whitish with pendulous branches. The root bark is light brown and the inner surfaces are white. It has an odorlike cress, and its taste is warm and pungent.

To ascertain its chemical composition, the air-dried stem bark of salvadora persica was extracted with 80% alcohol and then ether, and underwent exhaustive chemical procedures which indicated that it is composed of trim ethylamine, an alkaloid which may be salvadorine, chlorides, high amounts of fluoride and silica, sulfur, Vitamin C and small quantities of tannins, saponins, fiavenoids andsterols.

Repeated use of siwak during the day produces an unusually high level of oral cleanliness. It has been proven that plaque is formed immediately after eating. After 24 hours, it starts to act on the teeth. However, it can be eliminated through meticulous tooth-brushing.

Proper oral hygiene should be taught by dentists, but it requires a person's time and dexterity. Among those Muslims who ritually practice the use of siwak, rigid oral hygiene by a dentist may not be required.

Siwak and other twigs can be effective in removing soft oral deposits. They can even be promoted as effective instruments in oral health and dental programs for the population at large.

There is evidence that salvadora persica contains antibacterial properties. Some other components are astringents, detergents and abrasives. These properties encourage some toothpaste laboratories (Beckenham, UK, Sarakan Ltd.) to incorporate powdered stems and/or root material of salvadora persica in their products. Although commercial powders may be highly efficient in plaque removal, their use has been shown in a survey to cause a high incidence of gingivitis. Plaque eradication is essential, but it should not be in a manner that creates negative side effects for other tissues.

In conclusion, siwak and powdered siwak are excellent tools for oral cleanliness. They are highly recommended in preventive dental health programs in Muslim countries. Recommendations should be made to manufacturers of toothpaste to include the powdered form of siwak in an abrasive form of toothpaste.

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  Away from Home
Posted by: masriahmuslimah - 09-23-2003, 01:40 PM - Forum: Woman and family - No Replies


By: Dr. Aisha Hamadan

Have you ever longed for that one special dish or dessert, but could not find the exact ingredient to make it quite right? Have you ever wished that you could call up your dearest friend and invite her over for tea and conversation, but knew that was impossible?

Have you ever had a new baby and wished deeply in your heart that you own mother could be there to share this wonderful experience with you and to provide you with support, comfort, and advise? Have you ever felt such deep sorrow and pain that you cried until the tears would

no longer come?

If you are one of the many people “away from home” you may have experienced some or all of these wishes and feeling. Homesickness, loneliness, and missing family and friends are all very familiar to people in this situation. With the growing number of immigration to North American, this is becoming an important issues that needs to be addressed within communities. This is particular true women who many have moved with their husbands and begin to feel isolated and lonely while their husbands work throughout the day, sometimes for long hours. It may also be more intense for women who are attempting to live as Muslimahs and truly implement Islam in their lives. With the pressure and influence of the Kufr environment, there may be a great deal of fear, uncertainty, and suspicion for new residents. Being away from a more Islamic environment can only add the psychological stress of homesickness. Struggles with maintaining Islamic dress is a common concern related to this area.

The stress and challenges experienced in a new land may be magnified if children are involved. There may be concern about being able to instill Islamic values in children in an environment where these are not the norm. The pressure upon children and youth is probably even greater than those faced by adults. In many ways the upbringing of children is likely to be more different since the major support of extended family and friends is no longer available. This would be most evident in such areas as physical care, discipline, and monitoring.

So how is a Muslimah to cope with new challenges? There are certain positive steps that she can take and there are other areas where more seasoned sisters may be of assistance. The following is a list of those suggestions:

Suggestions for the New Arrival

1. Develop a strong support system. Whenever anyone arrives in an unfamiliar land it is important to begin to develop a new support system from the very beginning. Building a supplementary family and network in the new location can best alleviate homesickness and loneliness. If there is a large Muslim community in the area, opportunity for friendships should automatically be available through the local masaajid and halaqas. Lina is a sister who recently came to America from Jordan with her new husband. She started that her transaction has been less difficult than she anticipated primarily because she already knew one sister here and has met many new people and begun to develop friendships. Many for her contacts have been made through visits to the local masaaijd. She reported that because of this and a supportive husband she has experienced very little homesickness and feels that she is coping well.

2. Focus on the positive aspects. Being “away from home” may actually turn to be wonderful experience with myriad opportunities for personal growth and achievement. Free from the tangled intricacies of familial and cultural ties, a women may begin to determine who she really is, as an individual and find ways to strengthen her character, her Emaan, and her roles as a wife mother. It may also open the door to educational opportunity both in relation to the Deen and to personal career interest. There are many programs that offer course through correspondence so that a women can study in her home and tailor this to fit her interests and schedule. Lina stated that she has been to a masijed more often in this country during her short stay than throughout her lifetime back home. She reported that few women visit the masaajid in her home country except during Ramadan, and she was not aware of any halaqas for the education of sisters. In America she has started to join halaqa for Arabic speakers and teaches Arabic for an English halaqa. She will also begin school this semester to study computer.

3. Find ways to fill time through Ibaadah. There are many to keep oneself busy, especially in worship of Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala. It is in times of needs when the hearts is likely to be softer and one may turn to Allah more often. Sincere Ibaadah, such as salah, reading Qur’an, fasting, dhikr, etc, should be increased during this time as a sign of complete reliance upon Allah. Other activities that can be considered worship include: increasing knowledge of the Deen by reading Islamic books and materials; participating in dawah activities, halaqa activities, children’s programs; adopting an Islamic cause such as charity projects, social programs , sharing knowledge with others, etc. There fare many programs already established that would definitely need the help of extra volunteers. This may be an excellent opportunity to draw nearer to Allah.

Suggestions for Natives and more Seasoned Immigrants

1. Help to make new sisters feel at home. Some elements of “home” can be recreated here and be important in alleviating homesickness. Sisters may generate discussion by inquiring about the new sister’s homeland, customs, language, foods, etc. A familiar dish, desert, or spice may be brought for the sister or she may be shown local stores that carry idea to invite her to share information about her homeland with the halaqa, such as the social, political, economic aspects. All of these steps will help to make sister feel that “home” was not completely left behind.

2. Assist in the transition. Many women may be very unfamiliar with the “American” culture so it is important to increase their understanding so that they will be better prepared to deal with it. This may involve providing information and giving advice about how to handle specific issues, particularly related to the rearing of children. Not only will this be very beneficial for the sister so that she can avoid difficult or embarrassing situations, but it will make the overall transition much smoother.

3. Break down the barriers. New immigrants may not only be suspicious and wary of American culture, but they may also feel this way about American women. This barrier may be even more complex to overcome than any language barrier that may be present. American women who have converted to Islam may share their conversion story and what the change has meant for them. Oftentimes sisters will discern the shared challenges and obstacles that transcend cultural differences. For example, wearing hijab in an unIslamic environment is just as difficult for new converts as it is for immigrants, and maybe even more so if it is a recent modification. Through social contact and sharing of lives sisters will see that the commonality of Islam is what brings them together.

We welcome all new sisters to our communities and look forwards to sharing our lives.

(A special thank you to sisters from the Circle of Faith for their wonderful ideas!!)&n

By: Dr. Aisha Hamadan

[Al Jumuah Magazine]

Wednesday : 21/08/2002

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  رسالة غيّرت الكثير
Posted by: masriahmuslimah - 09-23-2003, 01:38 PM - Forum: منتدى المقالات باللغة العربية - No Replies


أرسلت إلينا إحدى الأخوات المقال التالي:

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

ابتدأت رحلتي الدعوية البسيطة منذ أن بدأت بمتابعة الأستاذ عمرو خالد؛ كنت أرتجف حين يقول: "ماذا ستقول لربك يوم تقف بين يديه ويسألك ماذا قدمت للإسلام؟" فأسأل نفسي مراراً وتكراراً، ولكني لا أجد جواباً!

فمنذ تلك اللحظات قررت أنا ومجموعة صديقات لي أن نبدأ رحلتنا؛ فأنشأنا مكتبة إسلامية في صفنا -فأنا أبلغ السادسة عشرة من عمري- ووضعنا فيها كل ما لدينا من كتب ونشرات وأشرطة إسلامية. استجابت لنا الفتيات حتى أنهن بدأن يلقين إلينا بأسرارهن التي لا أعتقد أنهن وجدن فتيات أكثر حفاظاً للأسرار منا؛ كنا ننصحهن ونرشدهن ولكن بما كنا نعلم.

حتى أتت إلي فتاة؛ بل أخت رائعة متفوقة أصغر مني بسنتين، أخبرتني أنها تحب شاباً وتراسله على الهاتف... الخ

حاولت ردعها بشتى الطرق، فلم تستجب. فلم أملك لها إلا أن أدعو لها في صلاتي، وفي كل وقت. أحببت أن أسمعها شريطاً إسلامياً، فصرخت في وجهي. فعندها أدركت أنه لا وسيلة لي إلا أن أدعو لها فقط، وكتبت لها رسالة طويلة كتبت لها فيهاً سؤالاً بخط عريض "ألا تحبين الله؟ لماذا تعصينه؟ هل ذلك الشاب أحب إليك من الله؟" مرت فترة قصيرة وإذا بها ترسل إلي رداً على رسالتي أخبرتني فيها أنها تائبة إلى الله...

عندها شعرت بانشراح في صدري لم أشعر به من قبل...

والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله

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  بدايتي كانت مع صديقات السوء
Posted by: masriahmuslimah - 09-23-2003, 01:37 PM - Forum: منتدى المقالات باللغة العربية - No Replies


بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

أحببت أن أكتب لكم قصتي لعل هناك من يهتدي بها باذن الله:

بدايتي كانت مع صديقات السوء، وبالتحديد في المرحلة المتوسطة، حيث من خلالهم تعرفت على فرقة أجنبية معروفة، وأروني صورهم وأسمعوني أغانيهم ومنذ ذلك الوقت وأنا أحبهم حباً جنونياً؛ أغانيهم أسمعها ليلاً نهاراً. وبعض الأشياء التي كنت معتادة أن أفعلها تركتها كصيام الأيام البيض، واستمر الحال كذلك لمدة ثلاث سنوات. بعدها تخرجت من المتوسطة وودعتهم، وانتقلت إلى المرحلة الثانوية.

وكل الذين انتقلوا معي في نفس المدرسة يقولون لي (ها يا فلانة كيف حال الفرقة هذيك؟) وأنا أجيبهم وأقول لهم آخر الأخبار. ولكن رب العالمين يمهل ولا يهمل سبحان الله.. في العطلة الصيفية اقترح والدي أن نذهب إلى أمريكا، فوافقنا. ذهبنا إلى هناك وأنا كلي أمل أن ألتقي بهم.. ولكن سبحان مغير الأحوال؛ بعد تقريباً أسبوع أحسست بضيق وغربة. لم أعتد على نمط العيش هذا؛ اعتدت على سماع الأذان، ورؤية الرجال والصبيان يخرجون من بيوتهم إلى المسجد. بعدها أخذت أقرأ القرآن وأحسست بلذة صراحة وأنا أقرؤه. وشيئاً فشيئاً أخذت أحفظ الجزء الأول من سورة البقرة. ومع مرور الوقت أصبحت أعتز بأنني مسلمة، مع العلم أنني ولله الحمد كنت مرتدية الحجاب لم أخلعه. وبعد مرور شهر كامل قضيناه في أمريكا عدنا إلى السعودية. استمر الحال بي في حب هذه الفرقة، ولكن حينما انتقلت إلى مرحلة الصف الأول الثانوي جاءتنا مدرسة -جزاها الله خيراً- ملتزمة، وكانت في بداية الحصة دائماً تذكرنا بالله وتخوفنا من النار، وترغبنا بعمل الخير وطاعة الرحمن. ومن ضمن حديثها لنا تحدثت عن الأغاني وحرمتها، وأيضاً معلمة الآحياء ذكرت لنا عقوبة سامع الأغاني. وقتها أخذت أفكر، والحمدالله تركتها، ولكني لم أترك مشاهدة الأفلام. سبحان الله.. أبي قال لي كلمة لا يقصدها، يعني مجرد (كلمة على الطاير) مثل ما نقول، قال لي "المطاوعة ما يشوفون أفلام" سبحان الله، بعدها تركتها فترة، لكني عدت إليها صراحة ولكن بشكل قليل.

بعدها جاء شهر رمضان المبارك وأنا ولله الحمد تركت الأغاني والأفلام، وفي ليلة من الليالي المباركة كنت أنا وأختي لوحدنا في منتصف الليل. سبحان الله.. وأنا كنت جالسة جاءني ضيق شديد في صدري، فأحسست أني سأموت. أخذت أركض وأتوضأ لأصلي الوتر، وكنت أقول كما قال حبيبي المصطفى صلى الله عليه وسلم بأبي هو وأمي (لا إله إلا الله إن للموت سكرات). وكان قلبي يخفق بشدة، واستمر الحال هكذا لمدة أسبوع. وذهبت إلى مستشفيات وأخذت أدوية، وكنت إذا استلقيت على السرير مر أمامي شريط حياتي.. وقتها فقط قلت (اللهم اغفر لي وارحمني وألحقني بالرفيق الأعلى) أحسست أني سأموت.

ومضى الوقت، وجاءت العشر الأواخر. أخذت أصلي الوتر بشكل يومي وأدعو الله بقولي (اللهم اشفني من مرضي هذا أنت الشافي) سبحان الله يا أخوات.. ورب العزة والجلالة أني ثلاث ليال وراء بعض وأنا أردد هذا الدعاء وحدث أن شفاني الله.. نعم ولله الحمد؛ ففي الليلة الرابعة أحسست ببرود في عروقي كأن الروح تغادر الجسد، فتوضأت وصليت الوتر وذهبت ألقي نظرة أخيرة على أمي، وعدت إلى فراشي ونطقت الشهادتين ونمت. ولكني استيقظت ولله الحمد وقد ذهب ما بي من سقم. أحسست أني وُلدت من جديد.. أحسست أن الله سبحانه وتعالى أراد هدايتي فعلاً، ومنذ ذلك الوقت وأنا أحاول أن أقضي وقتي بطاعتة سبحانه.

هذه قصتي.. فهل من قلب يحس برحمة الله سبحانه على عباده ويعود إليه تائباً؟

أسأل الله لنا ولكم الثبات على الحق في الدنيا والآخرة..

والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

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  أخلاقك منبع جمالك
Posted by: masriahmuslimah - 09-23-2003, 01:34 PM - Forum: منتدى المقالات باللغة العربية - No Replies


أرسلت إلينا إحدى الأخوات المقال التالي:

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم والصلاة والسلام على أشرف المرسلين سيدنا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين.

أما بعد:

سأروي عليكن أخواتي العزيزات قصة لفتاتين إحداهن مسلمة والأخرى كافرة والعياذ بالله.

كانت هاتان الفتاتين تعيشان في نفس الحي؛ فالفتاة المسلمة لا تخرج من منزلها إلا وهي ترتدي الخمار والجلباب (أي اللباس الشرعي الكامل). وقد كانت جميلة لكنها لا تظهر جمالها لأي إنسان؛ مع أنها كانت في ضيق من الحال. لكنها كانت غنية بقراءة القرآن، وصائنة لنفسها عن المحرمات والكبائر، ومحافظة على صلاتها؛ فكان ذلك كافياً لأن تكون جميلة الخلق والأخلاق. وعلى عكسها كانت الفتاة النصرانية ميسورة الحال تخرج وهي ترتدي ثياباً غالية الثمن، لكنها مبتذلة، متبرجة بأدوات التجميل، تشعر بأن هذه هي صفات المرأة العصرية.

وعند خروجها من المنزل ترى الشبان يعاكسونها، لكن بعد أن تسير يبصقون عليها. أما عند خروج الفتاة المسلمة ذات الأخلاق الرفيعة؛ فإنها تسير بخطوات رزينة، وبكل خطوة تمشيها تترك احتراماً لها وهيبة منها، فجمالها دائم ما دامت الزينة التي تتجمل بها هي الأخلاق الفاضلة.

وفي يوم من الأيام كانت الفتاة النصرانية خارجة من الجامعة؛ فإذا بسيارة تدهسها. فيتم إسعافها سريعاً ونقلها إلى المستشفى. وتسبب الحادث في تشويهها وذهاب جمالها في رمشة عين. وفي اليوم التالي إذا بالمسلمة تقوم بزيارتها محضرة لها هدية، فتقول لها تفضلي هدية.. كتاب به تصبحي أجمل الجميلات..

فإذا بالنصرانية تسأل ما هذا الكتاب الذي باستطاعته أن يرجع لي جمالي؟ فتجيبها المسلمة: كتاب الأخلاق الذي به يعود لك جمالك، وبتطبيقك إياه تصبحين جميلة دوماً، وليس لحين مؤقت. فإن كانت أخلاقك أخلاق المرأة المسلمة؛ فستشعرين بالجمال والسعادة دوماً. فإذا بها تأخذ الكتاب وتبدأ بالتطبيق تبغي عودة جمالها. ولكن بعد مرور وقت يقارب الشهر الواحد؛ إذ بغاية الحصول على الجمال تتحول إلى الحصول على مرضاة الله والاخلاق الكريمة التي بها يزداد جمالها. فقد أيقنت أن الجمال الحقيقي يكون باتباع الدين؛ لا باتباع الشهوات والهوى.

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  The Role of Listening in Family Shura
Posted by: SisterJennifer - 09-22-2003, 06:42 PM - Forum: Woman and family - No Replies


Islam is a way of life, and Shura, or mutual consultation in all affairs, is part of it.

Whether it's community affairs (42:38) or family issues (2:233), Shura is a blessing for all members of the Muslim community.

In a family setting, Shura is a beautiful tool for building family closeness and cohesion. It allows all family members to voice concerns and opinions in an open and honest manner; it teaches young and old the proper etiquette of communication, and most importantly, it allows all members to feel that they are part of a team that shares common values and goals for the sake of Allah.

But Shura doesn’t just happen. It requires time, commitment, and skill. One of these skills is good listening.

In our culture, listening tends to be devalued in the face of talking. A person who speaks well is highly regarded, but a good listener is rarely praised. Communication is clearly a two-way street, and Shura without proper listening skills cannot succeed.

Here are seven tips for better listening that can strengthen Shura in your family.

1. Remove all distractions

Busy parents, especially moms, are excellent multitaksers: doing the laundry while talking on the phone, while getting dinner ready, while preparing for a meeting. But in the case of Shura, multitasking is clearly a liability, not an asset.

When the family settles down to conduct Shura, all distractions must be removed. The television and radio must be off, the computer put in sleep mode, the answering machine on, and newspapers, games, and magazines put away.

This way, everyone's full attention can be given to paying attention to what is being discussed.

2. An attitude of respect

In some families and cultures, what women and young people have to say is ignored or devalued. This attitude is a sure way to kill good listening, and by extension, family Shura from the start.

If we remember the example of our beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, he consulted his wives and was very attentive to the needs of children. He respected all, and this is the attitude that we must adopt if we want to become good listeners who will succeed in implementing Shura in our families.

3. Make eye contact

Making eye contact with the person speaking is critical in showing that you are paying attention, which validates the speaker's need to feel you are really listening.

4. Use gestures

As with eye contact, gestures like nodding your head, smiling or frowning (depending on what's being said) also show the speaker that you are paying attention.

5. Don't interrupt

How many of us are notorious for finishing other people's sentences? This bad habit is not only rude, it is also a sure way to annoy a speaker. When you interrupt, the message you give the speaker is: 'what you have to say doesn't really matter, so let me take over the conversation'.

Wait until the speaker is finished talking, then raise your hand or start speaking if no one else is to responding.

6. Ask question

This is a great way to show that you were paying attention. By asking questions related to what the speaker was talking about, you show your interest.

Of course, questioning must be done in a respectful manner. If you disagreed with something the speaker said, express your disagreement politely, without raising your voice or becoming rude.

7. Remember, you don't have to agree to everything

Listening carefully to what someone else is saying does not mean you have to agree with everything that is being said. Rather, what you are doing is allowing the speaker to express his or her emotions so that s/he feels validated and a constructive solution can be worked out about a disagreement or issue.

So even if, during family Shura, your six-year-old says he "never" gets to do anything fun with his friends and you vehemently disagree, don't jump in and interrupt. Let him express his frustration by listening carefully, and then, consult with him about how he feels this can be changed.

<i>source: soundvision.com</i>

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  cud sum1 help me!!!!!!
Posted by: SAMAZ - 09-22-2003, 05:01 PM - Forum: Usama - Replies (31)


asslaa-u-alaikum

im 15 an i wear da scarf an i see oder gurls wearin it aswel which makes me very happy but da oder gurls ave boyfrendz an all. y do dey wear da scarf if der gnna give oder ppl who wear da scarf bu aint lyk dem a bad name aswell?????????????

i get questioned from my frendz abou dis i try 2 say 2 my frendz dat dey cud be wid der brother , husband or even farther bu den dey torment me wid da way da gurl in scarf wo acting in da guy, wot shud i do????????

Wasslaam-u-alikum

Allah hafiz 2 all!

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  Al-AMANA Message No. 199, week No. 143, Month No. 35 (September 19, 2003)
Posted by: Muslimah - 09-22-2003, 07:50 AM - Forum: Current Affairs - No Replies


(9)*(NEWS FROM THE DA”WAH)

Norway: More and more embracing Islam

Oslo, Rajab 20/Sep 17 (IINA) – The number of new Muslims in Norway has been gradually increasing, according to a handout from the Islamic Community Center here, which added that there were 500 new Muslims last year, and this has brought the total number to 80,000.

The statement indicated that 50,000 of them are members of either Islamic Centers or other Islamic organizations, and went to show that most the Muslims in the country are ethnic Pakistanis, followed by Turks, Moroccans, Iraqis, Somalis, and Bosnians, who number not less than 5,000.

The handout discloses that there are 69 mosques in Norway, 24 of which are to be found in the capital city, Oslo, where there is a large concentration of Muslims. Among the immediate problems facing the Muslim community here is the organization of prayer and fasting times, particularly the latter, because in certain seasons of the year when there is continuous sunshine and at certain seasons there is continuous darkness for months.

The “Islam in Norway” newsletter goes on to say that another problem is that of the second generation Muslims in the country, most of them do not even know their mother tongue, a problem that prevails in all the European countries with Muslim minorities. HI/OB/IINA

http://www.islamicnews.org/english/index.html

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(10)*(NEWS FROM THE MUSLIM WORLD)

Kazakhstan: Conference of religions to be held

Astana, Rajab 20/Sep 17 (IINA) – The Kazakhstanskaya Pravda newspaper has disclosed that that the country is preparing to welcome various delegations who would be attending the International Conference of Religions which would be held here from September 23 – 24. It is expected that 18 delegations, representing different religious denominations, will be attending the conference. Others that are expected to attend the conference are representatives from the UN, the Organization for Security and Cooperation in Europe, UNESCO, and UNICEF. The Office of the President here announced that others who are expected to attend are delegates from Saudi Arabia, Egypt, India, Indonesia, Pakistan, and Iran. It is expected that among the prominent Muslim personalities who would attend are Dr. Abdullah Al-Turky, secretary-general of the Muslim World League (MWL), and the Grand Sheikh of Azhar, Dr. Muhammad Sayyid Tantawi, as well as the chairman of the Ulema Council of India, Sheikh Muhammad Rabi’ Al-Nidwi.

HI/OB/IINA

http://www.islamicnews.org/english/index.html

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