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Asalaamu alikum everyone,
I'd like to get feeback on an idea that insha Allah will make the forums even better.
This, and most Islamic sites all have a section devoted to women and women's issues. This is great, and I don't want to change that, but what about the men?
Men have issues too. Why not set up a place just for them to focus on male issues. Responibility to wives and family, handling stress and work-related pressure, etc.. Our brothers have a big responsibility and I think it may be of benefit to them to talk and learn from other brothers.
Any opinions???
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I pray Allah bless me to state what is right.
YES, Sister I totally agree, I being a Brother try to talk with other brothers and I myself had to get some counseling and advice a few times during my marriage and islamic life.
I will also agree it is not always easy for me and others to sit in a group and talk about our wives or our own personal weaknesses, but rest assured when we really need to discuss things we do.
***Al-hamdu'llah, I have a very good and loving wife, masha'llah, the talks I've had were all my own weaknesses, masha'llah.
so, yes, I agree with you 100%, after all we are only men, subject to mistakes, but you have to admit with the emotional hormones that the female have it's alot less stressful for us, because we don't have to deal with the ups and downs as often as you all do.
At times the brothers wanted to extend lots of help for you sisiters, because alot of women are in the homes, unable to get out and about like us brothers. We are able to go out for at least Fajr, Isha, and Juma, so we do have time and access to counseling more so.
So, if it isn't Allah's Will for us to have a forum, it's ok just the same.
May Allah (swt) help us all...amin!
As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llah
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thats ok we dont need one
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Asalaamu alikum everyone.
I agree with Brother Al3a3. We do need help also. Brother Suhail you will In sha Allah undertand one day when you have the responsiblity of taking care of a wife and children. I think it would be a great idea for a place for the Brothers to discuss things also.
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Bismillahir-rahmanir-raheem
As-salaamu alaykom wa rahmat-Allaahi wa barakaatuhu to my brothers and sisters in Islaam,
I agree. We all need somewhere we can meet in private. Muslim men only, no sisters and no visitors. If a brother needs to talk we should make things as easy as possible. We all need a bit of love and understanding now and then.[img:7cfb4112bb] http://www.flashyat.com/vb/images/smilies/pftroest.gif[/img:7cfb4112bb]
While the subject is open, do we need any other rooms?
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yeah under 20's room ... where us teenagers can talk in "private".
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Mash a Allah, excellent ideas, I agree to both of them. May be I would like to add something, and let us discuss this. when we opened the women and family, I suggested to close it for sisters only. Then, a member said that brothers could come in or whoever, it is an e environment. But then I can see that brothers participation is fruitful. So what do u think? I think the brothers room must be closed to them, should we split the women and family and make one for sisters and let the family be opened? The under 20 idea is perfect.
These are my ideas.
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Sorry
how about technology, may be this would even have members share their experience and help us all with our technical difficulty.
Jazaki Allah khairan jennifer
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Bismillahir-rahmanir-raheem
As-salaamu alaykom wa rahmat-Allaahi wa barakaatuhu to my brothers and sisters in Islaam,
Most forums seem to have a Sisters Only Room. And many also support a Brothers Only Room.
When talking Secret Mens' Business we don't want no-one listening in. [img:9154bb73c6] http://www.swishiat.com/vb/images/smilies/sofa.gif[/img:9154bb73c6]
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Sis. Muslimah,
I did remember a brother asking can we go to the woman and family section.
Family is the root of this community, it all begins in our homes, and as you've mentioned Sis. Muslimah, YES, FAMILY SHOULD BE FOR US ALL MEN AND WOMEN, so that we can understand one another. I know we need your sisters' opinions, about our wives and children, things that would help you all be comfortable in hard times, and what things to do when there is open time. Because if you left it up to alot of us brothers we enjoy hanging out with each other, sometimes alittle too much, I can speak for myself for example. Al-hamdu'llah our wives have rights, and to understand more of what we must do , I believe we need to communicate (behind this screen only to heal our families. And like Bro. Mutawakkil, mentioned, and separate place for us brothers only , and with all respect a sepearte place for you sisters, so that we don't have to put up a front or be embarrassed or withhold important men issues, and that you sisters don't have to withhold your female issues.
(It's not good to go deep into any problem Allah may test us with but at least we can all say enough so that the correct advice can be given, insha'llah
For sure, teenegers need a place too. They can get bored easily. Bro. Suhail786, is a very funny brother, may Allah (swt) bless him to grow into the good muslim, he seems to be...amin! I'm coming to maturity also, but I hang-out with both my peers and older brothers too, to help me learn more about becoming a good muslim man, insha'llah.
As-alaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llahi wa barakatu!
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