Muharamat!

[Shereen]

I know sister, btw, my country is the same as yours. Egypt that is
It is wide spread there among the Sufis.

no........i don't live in Egypt....i wish i could've anyway......iam from PAkistan

[Shereen]

I want to ask what is 'Slander'



I was wondering if u know that is it correct that 'Women are not allowed to visit tombs & graves'???

[Abunuran]

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It is wide spread there among the Sufis.

no........i don't live in Egypt....i wish i could've anyway......iam from PAkistan


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MY bad, not sure why I thought you were from Egypt, maybe I mixed you with someone else.


Or maybe I just miss Egypt, havn't been there since 2001.

[Abunuran]

I want to ask what is 'Slander'

I was wondering if u know that is it correct that 'Women are not allowed to visit tombs & graves'???

You will have to be patient and wait until I get to that section , If you can't wait then go to this site and type slander in the search area and it will show you a couple of Fatwas about it.


Here is a fatwa about women visiting graves from that site by the same Sheikh that has written this book:


Question :


Our extended family seem to de divided on the issue of women visiting graves. Some say it is perfectly okay and do so and some say it is not permitted and do not visit graves. Please let me know if it is permissible for women to visit graves.



Answer :


Paying visits by Muslim men to cemeteries is a practice of the sunnah, and it reminds one of his destiny so that he may strive for it. As the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:


"I [once] had forbid you from visiting graves, [and I now enjoin] you to do so, so that the visit may serve as a beneficial reminder." (related by Muslim and others)


and in the version of al-Haakim:


"… for [such visits] soften the heart, bring tears to the eyes, and serve as a reminder of the Hereafter, [but be careful] not to speak forbidden expressions [i.e. while visiting]." (Sahih al-Jaami' 4584)


Concerning visits to cemeteries by women, scholars have varied opinions on this issue:


it is allowed or preferred and their case is similar to that of men


it is makrooh (reprehensible), which is the opinion of jumhoor ul-'ulemaa' (the majority of the scholars)


it is forbidden, this one probably being the strongest opinion, as indicated by al-hadith al-sahih in which the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:


"Allaah has cursed women who frequent graves," related by Ahmed and Tirmidhi and Ibn Maajah and in one version,


"Allaah has cursed women who visit graves and those who build mosques and place lights upon them." (related by Abu Dawood, al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaa'i and al-Haakim)


This condemnation would warrant the validity of the argument against women visiting cemeteries as the lawmaker (i.e. Allaah) would not condemn something that is permissible or reprehensible—only that which is forbidden completely.


Regarding what would be the reason for this condemnation, the scholars have cited two main arguments:


Firstly, that women for the most part are emotionally weaker in accepting calamities and perhaps being in sight of her dear one's graves may break into wailing and loud weeping, which would be detrimental to her religious character and harmful for her body as well.


Secondly, cemeteries are oftentimes isolated places which may not be safe for someone being alone, possibly exposing a woman to people of corrupt or loose moral character.


In summary, the rationale behind this prohibition is that women are often not as strong emotionally in the face of calamities, and not visiting graves prevents them from the trial and from being exposed to unnecessary fitnah.


Allaah the Most Knowledgeable knows what is most correct and best.


Islam Q&A


Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)


http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=q...se&QR=127&dgn=4

[Abunuran]

Yet another form of shirk is:



<b>believing that certain things can bring benefit when the Creator has not made them so. </b>


For example. some people believe in amulets and spells, or wearing certain types of pearls or seashells or metal earrings and so on, on the advice of fortune-tellers or magicians or in accordance with inherited customs. So they hang them around their own or their children’s necks to ward off the evil eye - or so they claim; or they tie them onto their bodies or hang them in their cars and homes, or wear rings with special stones, thinking that these things can relieve or ward off distress.


This without a doubt is contrary to the idea of relying on Allaah, and will only result in making a person even more weak, like seeking medicine in a haraam way. These amulets obviously contain much shirk, such as seeking the help of some jinns and devils, or vague drawings and illegible writing. Some of these liars even write aayaat from the Qur’aan, or mix them with words of shirk, or write them with impure substances such as menstrual blood. Hanging up these amulets or tying them to one’s body is haraam because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever hangs up an amulet is guilty of shirk.” (Reported by Ahmad, 4/156; see also Silsilat al-Saheehah, no. 492).


If the one who does this believes that these things can cause benefit or harm instead of Allaah, he is a mushrik who is guilty of al-shirk al-akbar. If he believes that they are a means of causing benefit or harm, then he is a mushrik who is guilty of al-shirk al-asghar, which includes shirk that consists of attributing causes to things other than Allaah.

[Shereen]

jazak allah........thank you for ur answer Abu Nuran..........it is understandable y women are (almost) forbidden to go to cemetries.......but how about Tombs? because in Makkah we have the timb of Prophet Muhammed(pbuh) and all women go there?

[Abunuran]

jazak allah........thank you for ur answer Abu Nuran..........it is understandable y women are (almost) forbidden to go to cemetries.......but how about Tombs? because in Makkah we have the timb of Prophet Muhammed(pbuh) and all women go there?

Wa Eyakum sister, here is a fatwa regarding that matter:


Question :


Is it permissible for women to visit the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)?



Answer :


Praise be to Allaah.


Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:


That is not permissible for them, because of the general meaning of the ahaadeeth which forbid women to visit graves and which curse them for doing so.


The difference of opinion concerning women visiting the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) is well known, but if they refrain from doing so that is more on the safe side and more in accordance with the Sunnah, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not make any exception in the case of his grave or the grave of anyone else.


Rather he forbade them in general terms, and cursed those women who do that. So we should follow the general meaning so long as there is no text that specifically exempts his grave, and there is no such text.


And Allaah is the Source of strength.


Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 17/419. (www.islam-qa.com)


http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ds=qa&lv=br...12&dgn=4&ln=eng

[Abunuran]

<b>Showing off in worship:</b> among the conditions for any good deed to be acceptable are that it should be free of any kind of showing off and within the framework of the Sunnah.



The person who performs acts of worship, like praying, in order to be seen by other people is a mushrik and his deed is unacceptable. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):


“Verily, the hypocrites seek to deceive Allaah, but it is He Who deceives them. And when they stand up for prayer, they stand with laziness and to be seen of men, and they do not remember Allaah but little.” [al-Nisaa’ 4:142]


Similarly, the person who does a good deed so that news of it will reach other people has also fallen into the sin of shirk. The threat of punishment for the one who does this was reported in the hadeeth narrated by Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father), in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever does things to be seen and heard by others, Allaah will cause him to be seen and heard as an example to others.” (Reported by Muslim, 4/2289).


Whoever does any act of worship for the sake of Allaah and other people, his deeds will be unacceptable, as is stated in the hadeeth qudsi: “I am so self-sufficient that I am in no need of having an associate. Thus he who does a deed for someone else’s sake as well as Mine will have that deed renounced by Me to him who he associated with Me.” (Reported by Muslim, no. 2985).


It may happen that a person starts to do a deed for the sake of Allaah, then the urge to show off comes over him. If he resists that impulse his deed will still be acceptable, but if he submits willingly to it, then in the opinion of most of the scholars his deed will be unacceptable.

[Shereen]

thank u for ur answer..........iam glad that ur here

[Abunuran]

As-salaam Alikum,


you are welcome sister, Al-hamdu ll'Allah that Allah (SWT) is using me to show people the beauty of our deen and that he (SWT) has bestowed me with such a chance to come closer to him (SWT) by doing so.


Allahmu accept it for your sake only, Ameen.


Thank Allah sister that he (SWT) have opened your heart to guideance to bring you closer to him (SWT).


As-salaam Alikum.