looking for a second wife

[Muslimah]

True brother, but I thought it would be different when it comes from a woman specially Egyptian u know how they perceive polygyny here :shock: .

Well Michelle one more point, u know what actually creates the problems. Of course women jealousy is accepted and known even to the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم. But most importantly is that the first wife takes it as a devaluation, lack of love, and that she is being incomplete. While a man may have thousand reasons for re marrying non of them related to this. Based on this assumption, she makes him feel guilty. Treating him with this assumption in the background of her mind affects the relation. While to him, he did nothing haram (forbidden to Allah). He did not commit adultry. He just got married. In some cases the second wife feels favored. Whereas it is only Allah's Will that brought her on board. See Michelle, to me I see that the second wife had a share of provision to be given by the husband. It does not include only money, but provision is more comprehensive than that. How would she gets it unless she is married. Now I think I am getting too far. I feel as if I am discussing it with one of my national peers. Well I don't want to prolong the post really.

Hope I added a woman's viewpoint. :!: :!: :!:

[AbuNoran]

True brother, but I thought it would be different when it comes from a woman specially Egyptian u know how they perceive polygyny here :shock: .[/quote:48e4c4262c]Well tell us your prespective sister. We are all ears.

[Ali]

Assalaamoalaikum

There are 48% men, and 52% women in the US. And the number is on increase for the women.

[i:672f86c33e](That was just a fact)[/i:672f86c33e]

-- Ali

[Muslimah]

I already did AboNuran scroll up man 8) but I still have more. Well we must stop trying to find a reason when a man expresses a wish to remarry. We must just accept Shari`a Allah which is Allah's legislation Michelle. See He is the Creator, He is the King of the Kings. U never ask a doctor why do I have to take this medicine 3 times and this every 6 hours. It could be simply that the other woman has a role Allah assigned it in the man's life or vice versa. Allah's Wisdom is incomparable. We may never realize it.

I still have more AboNuran and Michelle actually I just discuss it as I do with my female friends here.

[Muslimah]

I told AboNuran I have more. Sorry Michelle we got carried out and u only asked a simple question. I even must apologize for brother Imanove who started this thread for totally a different purpose.

Well the end result is that we made what is Halal (permissible) a taboo. The society with its rejectful viewpoint to polygyny made the man who decides to practice this right, compelled to hide it. While if he has a mistress, and even people find out, nobody blames him. I have seen men who took a second wife and had children with them for 8 years without letting the first wife or surrounding community know. What is the result? Dismanteled family ties. Totally opposite to what Islam calls for.

We must stop following the Western ideas. The West deregulated Divine laws and then made their own regulations. We can never overlook that a number of public figures in the West were involved in extra marital relations. What are the consequences? A corruputed society. We may say that a man who chooses to practice polygyny must be aware of the conditions setforth. Otherwise, only him shall be blamed before Allah.

[MichelleSeeking]

imanov have you been able to find a second wife?

[imanov]

bismi-lLahi-rRahmani-rRahiem, alhamdu li-lLahi Rabbi-l'alamien wa-shshalatu wa-ssalamu 'ala asyrafi-lAnbiya-i wa-lMursalien, wa ba'd:

a-ssalamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu-lLahi wa barakatuH,

not yet ! poor me !

but i'm waiting and have patience till Allah gives me a second wife.

anything incorrect is from me and the syaithan, while everything correct is from Allah Azza wa Jalla.

wa-lLahu 'alam bi-shshawab, wa bi-lLahi-ttaufiq wal-hidayah baraka-lLahu fiekum - wa shalla-lLahu wa-ssallamuH 'alaa Nabiyyina Muhammad, subhanaka-lLahumma wabihamdiKa asyhadu alla Ilaha illa Anta, astaghfiruKa wa atuubuilaiK.

wa ssalamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu-lLahi wa-barakatuH.

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[Guest]

Salam Alaikum...Brother I think you will never find here. Because the womens of 21th century did not like to be a second wife... As I was in islamic chatroom there was brother He suggest me always I'm looking for 2th wife.He says this everytime so I get angry with him, because (Allah is my withness) I was not looking for 2th wife Than he said its a joke, when He suggest this to me and stop it...I dont see anythink wrong if you want 2th wife it is halal to have. But most muslims see this as a uncorrect and look to these mens wrong........I hope you find one.... Good luck brother...Wassalam Take Care..

[MichelleSeeking]

I don't understand why being a 2nd wife would be so awful. I think it would be wonderful to share the duties of the household and raising the children with a woman that would be like a sister.

Maybe I am just a strange woman in a modern world!

[Guest]

I don't understand why being a 2nd wife would be so awful. I think it would be wonderful to share the duties of the household and raising the children with a woman that would be like a sister. Maybe I am just a strange woman in a modern world![/quote:6552bdfdb3]

Salam sister...

Look, there are so many ppl, they are going out (unmarried) may they has so much changed (10-30 times) their partner (for Dhzenaa), this normal for most..

But if a muslim want marry 2th woman (legal in islam), why is this not normal?

Wassalam..Take Care