She wants to marry a man who has a contagious disease

[amma]

Question :

What do you suggest a muslimah do if she wants to get married to someone who has herpes? His religoin and character is just, but he made that mistake at his teens, almost 20 years ago, he repented and never made the same mistake again. Will Allah protect me if I marry him for good islamic reasons and stay obedient to Allah?.

Answer :

Praise be to Allaah.

It states in sharee’ah that the Muslim should not expose himself to harm.

That includes mixing with a person who has a contagious disease, especially if that disease is serious and chronic, such as herpes.

The rulings of sharee’ah are addressed to everyone, sick and healthy alike.

With regard to the one who is sick, Muslim (2221) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The owner of sick camels should not bring them to the healthy ones” – lest the disease be transmitted to the healthy ones.

With regard to the one who is healthy, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Flee from the leper as you would flee from a lion.” Narrated by Ahmad, 9429; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7530.

Leprosy is a well-known contagious disease – we ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.

Muslim (2231) narrated from ‘Amr ibn al-Shareed that his father said: Among the delegation from Thaqeef there was a leper. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent word to him saying: “We have accepted your oath of allegiance; go back.”

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Miftaah Daar al-Sa’aadah (2/272):

He sent word to that leper accepting his oath of allegiance so as to establish the shar’i principle of avoiding the causes of harmful and hateful things, because a person should not expose himself to the causes of harm.

Ibn al-Qayyim said in Zaad al-Ma’aad (4/147):

Chapter on the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) on avoiding contagious diseases and his advice to healthy people to avoid those who have such diseases. Then he quoted the ahaadeeth mentioned above.

Your wish to marry this man who has herpes may be influenced by emotion, and you think that you are being patient and forbearing, then if disaster strikes you will regret it when regret will be of no benefit. There is nothing to compare to good health.

Our advice to you is not to marry this person.

We ask Allaah to bless you with a righteous husband who will help you in your religious affairs.

And Allaah knows best.

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[Peace in Ireland]

Would is then be also forbidden by Islamic law to work in a hospital? You'd be mixing with some pretty sick camels. Further, everyone has diseases. I got the flu two years ago, but would my wife have to leave me until I got better? And I would hardly consider herpes to be as devestating as most other diseases. Sure, herpes sucks, but it's not like you're going to drop dead once you get it. Anyway, I'm no Islamic scholar, I thought I'd just bring a western point of view to the whole mix. Adios!

[Muslimah]

welcome back peace, u keep disappearing...

[Peace in Ireland]

I know, I just up and vanish. It's a nasty habbit that I need to work on.

[Dan]

Bismillah


Yeah, the Irish need to represent on the board. (I am assuming you are Irish. If you are not, then you know what they say about assumptions. )


If the only nasty habit that you have is disappearing from this board then you are way ahead of the game in my book.


Peace

[Peace in Ireland]

Erin Go Bragh!


My family came over durring the potato famine. But there's a wee bit o' Italian in me too. So I get the best of both worlds: The Irish wit, and the Italian cooking. :-)


Are you a fellow Mick my friend?

[Dan]

Bismillah


Definately mick.


I also have some Welsh in me as well so I say that I am 100% Celtic. My family has come from the tiniest portion of the world. Cloudy and cool most of the time... Yep... I am truly quite white. The sun and I do not get along.


As for the cooking... Irish and English do not make for the best of cuisine. My family does okay though when it comes to the 'taters.


Peace

[Peace in Ireland]

Ok, so we've totally destroyed the original topic of this thread. But anyway, I understand your loathing for the sun perfectly. My Italians came from the North, so they didn't have that nice olive skin like Sicilians do. It's SPF 45 all day, everyday.


And as for quisine, that is truely the Gaelic shame. Some cultures just don't get it. Nobody likes boiled haggas and pigs splean. Man, it's fun being Irish.

[Dan]

Bismillah


I'll drink to that. Wait... I can't drink. It's not allowed in Islam.


Maybe in the afterlife, eh?


Peace