Problems

[Life]

salam

I have been experiencing alot of problems at home. By this i mean espcially with my mum. We always argue over the smallest things that occur. Its like she thinks dat everything i do is wrong wen it isnt. I mean like sumtimes i will go with my dad to my uncles house my dad brother and i will get tld off for doing this. She will tell me off for going and say thing like i cnt go there this and that and if ur dad wnt s to go he can but u cnt.

Sumtimes wen things like this happen i dnt knw wt to do. I knw dat in Islam your not meant to have ne enemies or keep nething against sum1. You shld forgive and forget. In situations lyk this i really dnt knw wt to do. My dad doesnt really say nethin to me, but both of my parents end up argiuin over this and ne other things dat happen.

I want to knw wot am i meant to do b.c sumtimes my mum puts me in the position dat u shldnt listen to ur dad kind of thing.

I knw dat im not perfect and stuff but sum issues to do with Islam me and my mum dont agree on. For instance i knw dat you shld only do wots in the Quran and Sunnah, but wen she says sumthing which i dnt agree with, my mum strts to cast me out and say im on thw wrong path and stuff. I will tell her that its a tradition or sumthing ppl have made up and have been following and it doesnt mean if sum1 else does sumthing its neccsarily rite. But still she will be like no u gt to listen to me. How do i over cme this problem.

I read a post abt kathams here which i see another sister has posted and i knw dat sumtimes ppl do these but with bidah. They tk kathams and do things they shldnt. I perosnally dnt belive in kathams and my mum does so we have big arguments.

I want to knw wot am i meant to do in situations lyk this sumtimes i keep quiet and dnt say nething but then its like im still in the wrong b.c i dnt say nething, but wen i do say sumthing its like im still in the wrong.

Can ne1 give me ne advice on this and also tell me the islamic piont of view especially wen it cmes to ur family and ur realtives.

I dnt knw if i shld be posted it here but as its for the Muslim youth i thought as i shld maybe there are others who experience similar problems lyk i do.

[Muslimah]

as salam alaykom Life sister

I was hoping for others to share but well

Now our standard of behaviour must be based on Quran and sunnah. According to this, breaking kinship relations is not recommended at all, matter of fact, it is highly rewarding to maintain kinship relations, as mentioned in a hadeeth what means:

one who becomes happy for his provision to be expanded and his decendants to be blessed, let him maintain kinship relations.

so obviously u must maintain kinship relation.

from what I read, your mother does not want u to visit your uncle, for whatever reasons she may have.

Now u may just remind her of the benefit of maintaining such ties, and that we are muslims and nothing is worth creating conflicts, that we may die any moments and it is better not to shoulder rights of others for Allah forgives our faults or shortage of worship if He wishes to, but never forgives faults towards other unless the person forgives.

but before doing so, read Ayatul Korsi with the intention of protecting both of u against shaytan. In such case u may talk to her nicely without creating more conflict. u may tell her u dont want to upset her, but also u dont want to upset Allah.

And above all and first of course, make two raka`a and ask Allah to support your effort and make them to Him only.

[Suhail]

im not giving advise this is what i do......if im pissed off i dont listen to both of them and just go out of the door then i come back really.... late and when i come back they have stopped arguing and everything is back to normal ...

p.s i dont advise u to do that but it works 4 me

[Muslimah]

Jazakum Allah khairan Suhail u made me:)

I surely dont advice u life to do the same