teenage experiences

[amma]

Well i think that u need to organise special lectures. I think that this helps alot. You need to ain to tell people wot they r actually doing wrong but in such a way that it wont stop them from actually attending a programme.

I mean like last yr in my college in Ramadan a speaker was invited to give dawa. I can say that alot of people attended this wot i gathered at the end was that he told u about Ramadan but also wots happening in reality now. I mean he was saying things abt fasting but he people still see thier b/f g/f or wotever. He was indirectly pionting out wot people were doing wrong.

Another thing u were saying abt wearing the hijab is to do the same kind of thing. Yes everyone has problems with wearing it, i even do my self sumtimes we all make mistakes. U need to show people that they r makin mistakes but they can learn from them u need to piont out the benefits and i think people will eventually figure out wots rite and wrong themselves.

I hope that it has helped u i'll think of some other ideas and get bk to you. But wot i said so far i have seen it been done and it does piont out to u wot ur doing wrong. I aint perfect myself so when u hear abt how other people in Islam cope and people who r worse of then u and how much the Prophet (SAW) and his companions suffered , it does make u think. I know that people dont always tk in information all in one go so u gt to repeat it but in different ways.

lol Hope i made sense but i said wot i have from my own expericences.

[masriahmuslimah]

Asalam~O~Alykum

Thank u sooooooooo much 4 ur advise. Inshallah i will try 2 do what u said and i hope it works. Plz pray that i can get though it safly and that ppl would listen 2 what I say. Thanx again 4 ur help.

Salam~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Masriahmuslimah

[Dan]

Bismillah

As salam alaikum

I ask Allah to bless and strengthen those who have the courage to wear the hijab. I feel a renewal of faith when I see a sister out in public wearing it. The hijab and dressing modestly are a courageous stance against what the Western culture is trying to do. It is a very sneaky trick of men to convince women that exposing themselves and objectifying themselves is freedom. To me it is the exact opposite. Spending hours of time trying to fit into the mold of beauty that has been falsely created. Look at the times before Islam. Women were treated as objects and exposed themselves like they are today.

Before the battle of Uhud, Abu Sufyan's wife, Hind, along with other women of the Mushrikeen sang:

"Advance forward and we shall embrace you

Advance forward and we shall spread carpets before you

Turn your backs and we shall avoid you

Turn your backs and we shall never come to you"

The only thing that they beleived they had to offer was their bodies and used them as leverage. This is very similar to what is happening now. On tv and movies, women get their goals accomplished through sexual means. Very rarely do we see a woman acclaimed for anything other than her beauty.

I recommend the book by Katherine Bullock, a convert to Islam. "Rethinking Muslim Women and the Veil: Changing Historical and Modern Stereotypes" is based on her doctoral thesis. It discusses the issues she faced when she converted to Islam and it also provides good refutations to those who claim the veil is a symbol of oppression.

Allah orders what is best for his people. Remember that we do not always have to have reasons other than Allah says to do it. As muslims, we hear and we obey. If people cannot accept that then they are no better than the fuel for the Hellfire that they are.

jazakum Allah Khairun

May Allah strengthen us to follow the Prophet's sunnah, Allah's Commands until we are blessedly returned to our Creator in Paradise forever.