الحج
وَجَاهِدُوا فِي اللَّهِ حَقَّ جِهَادِهِ هُوَ اجْتَبَاكُمْ وَمَا جَعَلَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ مِنْ حَرَجٍ مِلَّةَ أَبِيكُمْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ هُوَ سَمَّاكُمُ الْمُسْلِمِينَ مِنْ قَبْلُ وَفِي هَذَا لِيَكُونَ الرَّسُولُ شَهِيدًا عَلَيْكُمْ وَتَكُونُوا شُهَدَاءَ عَلَى النَّاسِ فَأَقِيمُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَآتُوا الزَّكَاةَ وَاعْتَصِمُوا بِاللَّهِ هُوَ مَوْلَاكُمْ فَنِعْمَ الْمَوْلَى وَنِعْمَ النَّصِيرُ
Al-Hajj
[78] And strive in His cause as ye ought to strive, (with sincerity and under discipline). He has chosen you, and has imposed no difficulties on you in religion; it is the cult of your father Ibrahim. It is He Who has named you Muslims, both before and in this (Revelation); that the Messenger may be a witness for you, and ye be witnesses for mankind! So establish regular Prayer, give regular Charity, and hold fast to Allah! He is your Protector, the best to protect and the Best to help!
Anybody, it's better to ask questions until you understand certain issues then to let the shaitan play with your head and thoughts and misguide you.
Check out these fatwa sites and search for your questions on them if you don't want to ask in public, or even send a pm if you prefer.
Your questions have probably been asked before and answered.
Arabic and other languages:
http://63.175.194.25/index.php
http://www.fatwa-online.com/
http://www.islamonline.net/fatwa/english...hFatwa.asp
http://www.islam-qa.com/cgi-local/browse_home_eng
http://www.islamway.com/sindex.php?section=fatawamain
May Allah (SWT) have mercy on our souls, Ameen.
As-salaam Alikum.