07-17-2003, 11:33 AM
I told AboNuran I have more. Sorry Michelle we got carried out and u only asked a simple question. I even must apologize for brother Imanove who started this thread for totally a different purpose.
Well the end result is that we made what is Halal (permissible) a taboo. The society with its rejectful viewpoint to polygyny made the man who decides to practice this right, compelled to hide it. While if he has a mistress, and even people find out, nobody blames him. I have seen men who took a second wife and had children with them for 8 years without letting the first wife or surrounding community know. What is the result? Dismanteled family ties. Totally opposite to what Islam calls for.
We must stop following the Western ideas. The West deregulated Divine laws and then made their own regulations. We can never overlook that a number of public figures in the West were involved in extra marital relations. What are the consequences? A corruputed society. We may say that a man who chooses to practice polygyny must be aware of the conditions setforth. Otherwise, only him shall be blamed before Allah.