11-08-2002, 03:23 PM
salam- muslimah,thank you very much for trying to help me come to terms with what i dont understand but im sorry i still dont agree with the purpose of a womans married life being to serve her husband. I dont understand how by pleasing your husband , you can please allah. I thought praying 5 times a day, and fasting in ramadan, and paying zakat, and behaving nicely towards other humans meant you could be in heaven and allah will be happy. Do we HAVE to get married? And even though i know the prophet said it is good to marry, i generally think ,i, as a person would be better off alone, i know my parents dont quite agree, but i do have a choice. And well, if a woman must marry a man because on her own she cant be finacially secure, i can, i am training to be a barrister and i have no problem there.
I dont agree with needing a man to make your existence meaningful, and i wont trouble another person,if i marry, because my personality is too independant and wont allow me to "please" another person as the aim of my life. Surely its better not to marry than marry and cause problems. What do you think?
Also, please can you tell me, if a person doesnt marry, , does it mean allah will hate them, even though its to protect other from the harm they may cause?