Manners & Attitudes

[Shereen]

<b>Misuse of the Tongue</b>

(a) Telling Lies and Talking Non-Sense

عَنْ سُفْيَانَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الثَّقَفِيِّ قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ حَدِّثْنِي بِأَمْرٍ أَعْتَصِمُ بِهِ قَالَ قُلْ رَبِّيَ اللَّهُ ثُمَّ اسْتَقِمْ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَا أَخْوَفُ مَا تَخَافُ عَلَيَّ فَأَخَذَ بِلِسَانِ نَفْسِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ هَذَا

Sufyan bin Abdullah al Saqfy (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that he inquired, <b>"O Apostle of Allah! What is the most dreadful of the things which you consider fearful for me?" He states that he caught hold of his tongue and said: "This one" - Tirmizi</b>
عنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ تَرَكَ الْكَذِبَ وَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ بُنِيَ لَهُ فِي رَبَضِ الْجَنَّةِ

Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Apostle of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: <b>"Whoever gives up telling baseless lying (a house) is built for him by the side of Paradise." -Tirmizi</b>

عَنْ سُفْيَانَ بْنِ أَسِيدٍ الْحَضْرَمِيِّ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ كَبُرَتْ خِيَانَةً أَنْ تُحَدِّثَ أَخَاكَ حَدِيثًا هُوَ لَكَ بِهِ مُصَدِّقٌ وَأَنْتَ لَهُ بِهِ كَاذِبٌ

Sufyan bin Useed al Hazrami (may Allah be pleased with him) states that the heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: <b>"It is the height of treachery (breach of trust) that you report a news to your brother which he believes to be true while you were lying to him." - Abu Daud</b>

عَنْ بَهْزِ بْنِ حَكِيمٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ وَيْلٌ لِلَّذِي يُحَدِّثُ فَيَكْذِبُ لِيُضْحِكَ بِهِ الْقَوْمَ وَيْلٌ لَهُ وَيْلٌ لَهُ

Bahz bin Hakeem (may Allah be pleased with him) reports from his father who reports from his grandfather that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: <b>"Woe to him who lies while talking to make people laugh thereby. Woe to him!" -Ahmad, Tirmizi, Abu Daud and Darimi</b>

عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِذَا كَذَبَ الْعَبْدُ تَبَاعَدَ عَنْهُ الْمَلَكُ مِيلًا مِنْ نَتْنِ مَا جَاءَ بِهِ

It is narrated by Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Apostle of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: <b>"Whenever a man lies, the angel goes a mile away from him on account of the bad smell of what he has produced." -Tirmizi</b>


<b>NO CURSING, NO TAUNTING</b>

عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَيْسَ الْمُؤْمِنُ بِالطَّعَّانِ وَلَا اللَّعَّانِ وَلَا الْفَاحِشِ وَلَا الْبَذِيءِ

Ibn Masud (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Messenger of Allah, (peace and blessings be upon him) said: <b>"The believer is neither a taunter, nor a curser, nor indecent, nor abuser." </b>

- Tirmizi and Baihaqi

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لَا يَنْبَغِي لِصِدِّيقٍ أَنْ يَكُونَ لَعَّانًا

It is reported by Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said<b>: It is not proper for a great truthful person to become a great curser." -Muslim</b>

<b>AVOID MIMICKING AND BACKBITING</b>

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا أُحِبُّ أَنِّي حَكَيْتُ أَحَدًا وَأَنَّ لِي كَذَا وَكَذَا

Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her) reports that the Apostle of Allah (peace and blessing be upon him) said: <b>"I don't like to ape (mimic, copy, imitate) any one, even if this gets me such and such (gains)," -Tirmizi</b>


عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ غَنْمٍ يَبْلُغُ بِهِ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ خِيَارُ عِبَادِ اللَّهِ الَّذِينَ إِذَا رُءُوا ذُكِرَ اللَّهُ وَشِرَارُ عِبَادِ اللَّهِ الْمَشَّاءُونَ بِالنَّمِيمَةِ الْمُفَرِّقُونَ بَيْنَ الْأَحِبَّةِ الْبَاغُونَ الْبُرَآءَ الْعَنَتَ

It is reported by Abdur Rahman bin Ghanam and Asmaa bint Yazeed (may Allah be pleased with them) that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: <b>"The worst of Allah's people are those who ram about with slanders and those who create separation between friends." - Ahmad and Baihaqi</b>

عَنْ حُذَيْفَةَ أَنَّهُ بَلَغَهُ أَنَّ رَجُلًا يَنُمُّ الْحَدِيثَ فَقَالَ حُذَيْفَةُ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ لَا يَدْخُلُ الْجَنَّةَ نَمَّامٌ

Huzaifah (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that he heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) saying<b>: "A back-biter shall not enter Paradise." -Muslim </b>