03-01-2004, 05:30 PM
Jazaa-Kallah Sister, buut you see I tried this. I performed wudu infront of him many times. He once asked me "I forgot could you tell me which side I am suppoesd to wash first" but I realised that he only asked me this because he knew I was looking at him.
I even on another occasion asked him to pour water for me so that I can perform wudu and he had no choice but to see me. But when I offered to pour for him, he refused and told me to go prepare the mats for prayers. He was wearing long sleeves and shoes, none of which were removed. And he came a couple seconds after as if he had performed wudu.
I even made his sister put up a chart on the wall in the bathroom about how to perform wudu. None of this helped. He seems not to care about these things. He apparrently thinks they are all unnecessary and only for the people of the past.
His attitude towards Islam is like the christians "Believe and you shall be saved" And all he does is believes and prays or at least does the gestures for prayers.
He's still trying to tell me that there is nothing wron with looking at movies with inappropriate material eg. Cursing and Nudity. And he can't see anything wrong with it. He pays hardly any heed to Hadith.
His sister is convinced that he is beyond help but I know Allah will guide whom he pleases. But we, the muslims have to do our job as well. And the people he interacts with will not help but make him worse. So I feel obligated. He doesn't smoke or drink and is very friendly and polite to people, even myslef (except for the arguing). I don't know where to start !!!