03-01-2004, 07:35 AM
Assalamu Alaikum
I would like your advice on this issue. There is this brother whom I am regularly around, like almost every day. He is a muslim, so we pray together and talk islam (only when agruing a topic).
Over the past years I am more convinced that he doesn't know how to perform wudu or he doesn't even know what he is supposed to say while praying. He makes sajdah in a split second. he raises his index finger in tashahud only when I raise mine and if he's praying alone he raises his finger and immediately after, makes salaams. There are many many more reasons I have come to believe this.
He however claims to know everything and this is apparrent even in non-islamic issues. I am almost certain but not 100% that he does not know these things. I tried to make provisions for him to learn wudu and try to talk about salaat with others while he is there.
He; based on his statements have brought me to the conclusion that he doesn't believe all this stuff like wudu and perfection of salaat as important. He thinks we should live this world to the fullest and all the dedication to islam and sunnah as non-important. It's like his method of thinking is you are a muslim and pray now and then that's all you need to get into jannah. He even commented once or twice that he's sure he's going to Jannah so apparrently he doesn't strive for attaing any better knowledge of islam. If I try to tell him something he is always like "yeah I know" It's really hard to talk to him. Or on some fiqh issue he's like well I don't think it should be so. Now I wanna just concentrate on his salaat firstly.
I care about this brother and I would like the best for him but how do you suppose I could approach him. Since he is whth that attitude that he knows everything when I am almost extermely certain he does not. How do I get him to grasp the importance of the fundamentals of Islam. And show him that he cant be satisfied with himself in thers of his knowledge of Islam. I try to encourage him to go to classes with me or lectures but he always makes some excuse and the very few times I get him to go he comes out criticising or pays no heed to anything he heard. All his time is dedicated RELIGIOUSLY to downloading comics, renting DVDs and looking at TV. And all other time to studying. Then he says "I have no time I got to Study" that's the most popular excuse.
The latest is that he is angry with me for refusing to deliver the three episodes of "American Pie" to one of his friends for his birthday present. He justifies looking at it because "the first tow is about friendship while the third is about a wonderful love story" As far as I heard all the episodes have Nudity, Cursing and Improper Sexual Content. But he sees nothing wrong with looking at it.
Please help on both or all these Issues ! I wanna help this brother !