01-13-2004, 05:40 PM
as salam alykom to both of u
Insh a Allah I will try my best with Allah's close guidance to help. I will not use the theoritical usual advices of be aware of Allah, u r a muslim, read about Allah's punishment. Simply because it is obvious that both of are quite aware of all that and more. More in the sense that u really r struggling to get over the problem. Yes it is a problem. Suhail not only in western societies no, every where. The media is so strong on that. and we are so weak.
Ok. First what is the cause of the problem, obviously shaytan. he decorates it and inspires u that it is difficut to stop.
Insh a Allah we need to set a plan, as any other Muslim u must be facing an attack from Shaytan who has no other desire but to trouble the son of Adam.
Well now we need to know how to combat Insh aAllah:
1. Maintain a status of Wodu all the time, every time you break wodu take wodu again.
2. Recite Ayatulkorsi (Quran 2:255) a lot, when u feel that u r too anxious to call, go for a date or when u are hit by an unpleasent wave. Also make sure to play Surat Baqarah (Quran 2) in the house every other day. In a hadeeth, the Messenger sallah Allahu a`alyhe wa sallam said that it deters the shaytan for three days.
3. Every time u want to go for a date, try to stop and fail to stop, give out a small amount for Sadaqa, any amount
4. Every time also u go for a date, perform 2 raka`a extra Tawbah. By this the Shaytan will find that by whispering to u, u r Insh a Allah increasing good deeds. He will stop.
5. Recite this dua a lot (like 100 times):
La ilaha ila Allah wahdahu la shareeka lahu lahul molk walahul hamd yohyie wayomeet wahuwa a`ala kol shai-en qadeer.
لا اله الا الله وحده لا شريك له له الملك وله الحمد يحيى ويميت وهو على كل شئ قدير
6. Last but not least, make much dua that Allah helps u to stop what is not pleasing to Him. Seek His help, talk to Allah and tell Him how much u suffer for not being as u should, and how much u need to get rid of this sin. Allah shall certainly help u.
This dua is a protection against Shaytan.
Say aoudh billah mina shaytan arrajeem a lot.
Also do tasbeeh a lot, like saying sobhan Allah, walhamdulelah, wa la ilaha ila Allah waAllah u akbar wa la howla wala qowata ila billa. A lot. Make this a lot. In a hadeeth also the messenger said what means hearts rust and the scrubbing is la ilaha ila Allah, and on another narration and the scrubbing is Quran.
Insh aAllah both of you will be able to get over this situation, and will more than fine.
may Allah protect us all against shaytan and his soldiers