01-10-2004, 02:49 AM
Umm well this is another thing.. my immediate family is muslim alhamdulillah for that... but some of them including my father is not practising this deen... my mother was a hindu prior to this marriage... thus i am left with alot of family who are deeply rooted into this hinduism... this major shirk.. and they love this way of life...
umm when my grandmother died(a hindu) i looked at her and cried cause i knew that jahannam was for her... now i look at my cousins who i love and say OH MY GOD... honestly i have given up.. do what do you think of this... what am i to say for them...
how do i deal with this they are non muslims... should i just leave them alone
please produce daleel
jazaakallah khair umm
as salam alykom akhi
Mash a Allah I must say that Umm produced a full reply on this Jazaki Allah khairan it is an important topic.
About your situation, just remember that the Messenger himself (sallah Allah u a`alyehee wa sallam) was in the same situation having part of his immediate family members even loved ones like his uncle Abu Taleb who were pagans. Just remember as well that many of the sahaba suffered the same problem. Many of us suffer also some members of the family who are not practicing but remember brother the ayah that say:
"And no bearer of burdens shall bear another’s burden; and if one heavily laden calls another to (bear) his load, nothing of it will be lifted even though he be near of kin. You (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) can warn only those who fear their Lord unseen and perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât). And he who purifies himself (from all kinds of sins), then he purifies only for the benefit of his ownself. And to Allâh is the (final) Return (of all)." (Quran 35:18). meaning that no one will be of benefit on the Day of Judegment no matter how u loved them in this life. I know it is painful when u know the destiney of the loved ones but u continue making dua and dawa'a for them. U r commanded to do so by virtue of this Ayah:"And warn your tribe (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) of near kindred.[1]" (Quran 26:214) In this Ayah Allah is commanding the Messenger (sallah Allah a`alyehee wa sallam) to talk to and warn his close relatives, u know of course that this in turn is a command for us. The same meaning is confirmed here:
"O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allâh, but do that which they are commanded" (Quran 66:6). I know how u feel, but giving dawa`a to them is a must. Dont expect to be welcomed, remember that the road of dawa`ah is not carpeted with flowers. But it is an honor, it is the heritage of Prophets and Messengers. We all face this and the hardest dawa`a we give is to our close relatives. However, dont do it alone, I mean seek Allah's close help and support at each prayer, ask Allah to help u much u need it. U can not do it without His help and support Akhi.
Focus on your close relatives, do it is a nice way, dont be harsh, Allah say "And by the Mercy of Allâh, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allâh’s) Forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allâh, certainly, Allâh loves those who put their trust (in Him)." (Quran 3:159)
I hope I was of help, may Allah support and help u akhi and all ummah