01-09-2004, 11:36 PM
wa aleikum salam
We can only do our best ahkee. If we live in a non islamic enviroment we do have to try to live as a muslim. And non muslim friends especially when your'e young and prehaps could be easily influenced, is dangerous. There has to be boundries. Shaytain could fool you into thinking youre doing dawa'a and before you know it they will influence you to commit haram. Its dangerous.
What do we have in common with non muslims?
And as Allah tala says, they will never be happy with us until we follow them. Or another ayat, the disbelievers only beckon you to the fire.
There are so many warnings in the Quran. So many hadiths. As in my previous post.
I went to college in a non muslim enviroment, there were a couple of muslims on my course, but not my type. There were no men on my course. And i would be polite with the other girls. But i never associated with them outside, nor would i have ever allowed one to come to my home. And i was already married at the time. And i never considered them to be friends. No, they were just people with whom i had dealings, and i was polite as long as they were. And this is the way of the muslim. And at lunch times i would walk home to make salat. This helped to make the boundaries, even with the other muslims who didn't mind missing their salat. And i would leave early when neccesary not to miss the salat. We have to chose our company carefully. My nasheeha would be to keep yourself to yourself as much as possible and be patient. And if you could go home at break times, this is best. Whats the point of college if your'e missing your salat? Or ask if there is a room where you could pray and at break times you could go quietly and read in there.
Try to attend Islamic lectures, seminars frequently and make muslims friends. You need muslims friends. And GOOD muslim friends. And spend your social time with them. As muslims we understand one another, and we have the same priorities (that is assuming we are practising our deen). We encourage one another to good deeds and we correct one another. We support one another fisabeelilah and we love another fisabeelilah.
You won't find this with the kuffar.
This alone is warning enough.
The Prophet sws said In an authentic Hadith,: <b>"A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend." </b> (Abu Dawood and at-Tirmidhee)
There's another hadith where the Prophet stated: If you want to know the man look at his friends. The daleel could go on and on...................
Just be patient akhee and let this time pass. You may feel you are missing out on something, but your'e not. This is just the whisperings of the shayateen.
And on the day of iqahma Allah azza wa jaal will ask us how long did you stay on earth and we'll answer a day or part of a day. SubhanAllah this dunya is so insignificant. And we inshallah will have the akhira.