12-27-2003, 04:22 PM
wa aleikum salam
Have sabr sister and make a lot of dua'a. Try to observe the ettique of du'aa. Ask Allah tala by his most beautiful names and praise Him, send salam upon the Prophet. And ask at the times when Allah tala doesn't refuse your du'aa ie. a fasting person, last third of the night, Fridays. Have iman and be patient, and patience is not easy that is why Allah speaks of its virtues time and time again.
Regarding online matrimonial agencies i wouldn't recommend it. How do you know that the man is a good muslim? How would you vet him? And nowadays we shouldn't take anything at face value alone. And is this respectable? AllahuAlim. Alhamduillah i have a husband but if i didn't believe me sister i wouldn't use this type of agency. Sabrun Jamilah.
As for muslim men, there are many good brothers Alhamduillah. And the sisters i have seen who have had problems (major things which resulted in divorce) all said the same- I wish i chose a more practicing brother. This is the key to success Inshallah.
When they asked Hassan ibn Ali
To whom should we marry our daughters? He replied marry your daughters to a man with taqwa for if he loves her he will honour her and if he doesn't love her he will never oppress her.
And may Allah subhana wa tala grant you a good husband.