12-19-2003, 06:55 PM
In the name of Allah Most Gracious Most Merciful.
Quote:Mohammad, it seems he liked the (young) ladies no?where did u read this exactly, most of his wives were old women it was only our mother Aisha who was so young when he married her i stated the reason before in a different thread.
http://www.islamsms.com/bb//showthread...hp?threadid=983
I don't know if u read this thread, read it and if still not convinced tell me, i will try to be more clear next time.
Quote:Correct me if I am wrong, excluding slave girls captured in times of war, Mohammad at one point had 14 wives or was married 14 times ?No u are not wrong, I will not lie to please any1, it is the truth, would u rather have 14 pious clean women or commit adultry with hundreds of prostitutes which only Allah knows what
kind of diseases u will catch from them.
John, God created human beings, and he alone knows how he created them, some men think that one wife is not enough, men mostly are not satesfied with one woman, so should he go and commit adultry to satisfy himself , no y should he while Allah gave him the permission to marry a second wife who is clean and pious and will take care of his honour, but he should take the first wifes' permission, or he should inform her to show her that he respects her and not doing anything behind her back.
But again Allah almighty asked us to be just to our wives not to treat one better than the other, if u love one more than the other is okay, u can't help it u cannot control your heart, but u must be just in spending, treating, and feeding. In the holy Quran it is mentioned in Surat Alnisa'
In the Name of allah Most Gracious Most Merciful :
3. And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan_girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice.
So here u see, God knows that humans are not just, so he is ordering only one if u are not able to be just with them.
and in surrat al R'ad
38. And indeed We sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad ), and made for them wives and offspring. And it was not for a Messenger to bring a sign except by Allâh's Leave. (For) each and every matter there is a Decree (from Allâh).
It shows here that not only prophet Mohammad had many wives but other prophets did as well, u will ask and say y is all that, why so many wives?
Here are some I recall :
1- prophets are our ideals, so if we do anything we should follow their example
and if they do anything not from therselves but by order of God.
In the Name of Allah the Most Gracious the Most Merciful:
Indeed in the Messenger of Allâh (Muhammad ) you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in (the Meeting with) Allâh and the Last Day and remembers Allâh much.
the Holy Quran, 33:21
2- When u marry more than one wife, u will have lots of children, by that the islamic nation will increase in population
and if raised properly on islamic morals they will serve Allah and the relegion as requsted by Allah Almighty.
3- Being merciful with widows and divorced women who will not find any1 to take care of, and this is exactly how the prophet married his wives, he was allowed to marry 9 wives, and this is only permissable for him, the reason for that as I said he is our Ideal, and each marriage of his was to solve a problem
or to show the right way of dealing with
various marital situations.
Then Allah also confirms that man cannot be just even if he tried:
In the Name of Allah the Most Gracious the Most Merciful:
129. You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allâh by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allâh is Ever Oft_Forgiving, Most Merciful
Here Allah Almighty shows that no matter how men try to be just to wives
he will not be able to, but then again he says if u can do that and are pious and have fear of Allah in doing just then Allah will forgive u if u did unjust before.
So it is up to u to marry 1 2 or 3 or 4 but u have to be just, the prophet is different as I told u , he is our example
he married his wives by order of Allah, and then he was ordered not to marry other than them even if he is attached to their beauty :
In the Name of Allah the Most Gracious the Most Merciful:
51. You (O Muhammad ) can postpone (the turn of) whom you will of them (your wives), and you may receive whom you will. And whomsoever you desire of those whom you have set aside (her turn temporarily), it is no sin on you (to receive her again), that is better; that they may be comforted and not grieved, and may all be pleased with what you give them. Allâh knows what is in your hearts. And Allâh is Ever All_Knowing, Most Forbearing.
52. It is not lawful for you (to marry other) women after this, nor to change them for other wives even though their beauty attracts you, except those (captives or slaves) whom your right hand possesses. And Allâh is Ever a Watcher over all things.( 33 Surat Alahzab)
Well this is brief, if u wish to know more
I will look it up for you. But when u read this u must know that God created humans and they are all not the same, each is different in his attitude, different in his morals and ideals, men also differ in treating women some are just others are not, some 1 wife will be enough others not, so Islam gives the solution to all this. And who should we follow in his morals, it is prophet Mohammad(pbuh), he taught us high morals, which I am sorry to say that most muslims do not posses or preach,
if they did they again will be that great nation that was 1424 years ago.
One more thing, prophet Mohammad, before Islam was spread, he was offered young beautiful ladies to posses and marry, he was offered wealth and monarchy by Kuffar in order to leave his
da'wa, he did not accept, his Uncle Abu taleb came to him and told him that Quraysh will give him whatever he wants to stop this he said: O uncle if they put the sun in one hand and the moon in the other I will not leave it until I spread it or die for it.
So if he really loved young women as u stated he would have accepted this offer, and left what he was ordered to do, but instead he refused and he bared their disbelief and torture to him and his followers until he succeeded in spreading the message of Allah. I hope I cleared some views for u here, if u still need to know more, do not hesitate to say, I will do my best to help.
May Allah the Most forgiving forgive me if I am wrong.
If I am right it is from God alone, if I am mistaken it is my mistake and ignorance.
Peace