Salam

[Muslimah]

as salam alykom dearest amma

as far as I understood, is that some one is doing somethign wrong and u r trying to explain this according to Quran and sunnha and all what u get is abuse. What did all the Prophets and messengers got dear. If u dont go through this u will be missing something from the heritage of Prophets. So first u must praise Allah that He allowed u to take over His message.

Now as how to handle, we all go through this and it is mostly hardest when it involves family members. U just keep on saying what pleases Allah in a very nice way, keep in mind that one who is doing wrong is probably aware of this but feeling hard to stop, so u r just facing him with his mistakes, so keep this in mind, usually he will be aggressive, u be patient, remember u r doing this to Allah and waiting for no human reward. Keep in mind that the road of dawa`a is not carpeted with flowers. Again be patient, understanding, not sarcastic, never moke one who is committing a sin for we can never guarantee that we won't do it. Alway bring Allah's mercy and grace and that Allah is just waiting for us to repent. Also bring the point that we are all vulnerable to sins and how we must fight shaytan. Do it in a very understanding and sympathitic manner. the wong does is certainly aware and needs help, if Allah can understand and treats us mercifullly, then we must.

Now most important is always before talking to the person read Ayatulkorsi to protect both of u from shaytan and of course much dua for the person to distinguish between right and wrong clearly.

I am already keeping u in my dua of course.