12-13-2003, 08:21 AM
Quote:<i>Originally posted by MichelleSeeking </i><b>Can someone explain that Hadeeth a little better? Are women in hell because they got upset at their husbands for being harsh? If a husband is cruel and his wife isn't greatful will she go to hell? </b>as salam a`alaman itabalhoda
P.S. I hope you all had a wonderful Ramadan!!!
Long time no see Michelle, Alhamdulelah we all had a wonderful Ramadan
May Allah allow me the proper expression to present this point.
Let me further explain this hadeeth simply because it is important
The hadeeth is not referring to an abused wife who may practice patient and earn a major reward for taking what she is enduring in her marriage and not complaining just because it is all a test from Allah. But the hadeeth is referring to a normal marriage where the couple is leading a normal life with ups and downs, when the husband is doing his best to maintain the family. And at the slitest mistake, she totally forgets all the nice moments and days, totally denies him all his gentle gestures and just go on complaining to people that she never saw even one good day with him. Now this is exactly what the hadeeth is talking about Michelle. Michelle, according to a hadeeth (Prophet's sayings) we are commanded to take 70 execuses to our bothers and sisters before being upset with them. Certainly the husband is entitled for this. But women fail to comply with this hadeeth, that is why. And actually by the Prophet (SAW) informing us about this, he warned us in order to try and avoid this attitude. If one fails to observe the rule she can only blame herself. Hope I explained the point well enough to benefit all. May Allah accept what is correct which is from Him and overlooks any mistakes and provide u with the correct knowledge.