08-16-2003, 12:26 PM
I pray Allah give me the right words to say.
sometimes we read but don't completely read, excpet what we are looking for.
sometimes we write but only what we know, you have some that write even what they don't know.
I NEVER SAID LET'S GO AGAINST POLYGAMY, I FOR ONE WANTED TO CARE FOR ANOTHER, BUT DIDN'T HAVE THE FUNDS, and seeing my own striving in the way she do, I could not hurt her.
I am blessed to have a wife, al-hamdu'llah, who completely fulfills everything about me, but at first I couldn't see that.
Anyway, Sister, you should read Blessings of obeying one husband (another thread that may explain, what i've stated, as well as a nother brother stated too) as well as this opinion and you'll see that i did mention, ONLY IF THE BROTHERS ARE ABLE.
Allah (swt) says even if a man's deep desire was to satisfy a woman he couldn't.
those were my words, but here's the ayat (4:129) if I'm not mistaken.
Also, the muslims today are so, sidetracked, we are hurting our families now, well we do have lots of practising and peaceful families. But when I grew up in a christian home, all my parents stayed together til death, they loved each other and both mothers and fathers loved all the children, my parents had lots of friends because they were just good to everyone. sure, being non-muslim, they may have done things but we never saw.
anyway, look at the stories of how the Prophet (saaws) wives played tricks, (they never crossed lines), and we all should know and believe that the Prophet (saaws) was for sure the fair one (saaws). There are stories in hadis that tells of how even one time he (saaws) stayed away from them for a month, (so that they could have time to think about their behaviours).
WHAT THE BROTHERS NEED TO KNOW LIKE THE PROPHET (SAAWS) WE CAN'T MAKE YOU WIVES STAY IN THE SAME HOMES, AND WE SHOULDN'T EVEN MAKE YOU HANG-OUT TOGETHER, BUT WHEN DEALING WITH EACH OTHER, YOU SHOULD BE SISTERS IN ALLAH'S NAME NO MATTER WHAT AND REESPECT EACH OTHER.
If I'm not mistaken Sara(as) the wife Of ??? the Prophet Ibrahim(as)???, wished well for Hagart (as), so that her Husnad Prophet ??? (as) could have a child, but in Sara'a heart she became so jealous, the Prophet ??? had to take Hagart (as) a pregnant wife into the woods to protect not only her and their child, but also, to protect Sara(as) from committing Possible harm to Hagart(as).
Hagart (as) and thier child were the nes Allah (swt) Belssed to be the first to get the ZAmZam water (different story), but the thing is a woman shouldn't feel bad or suffer because another can't except polygamy.
It has to be a wife who is tired of her husband all the time, to deal with, because, even an excellent servant can be jealous.
Everything must be for Allah's Pleasure alone!!!
I know some brothers may be against what i've stated, but i have alot of friends who seek refuge in Allah instead of taking on the heavy responsiblilty of more than one.
Allah don't place burdens on us that we can not bear, it is us who place them on ourselves.
The Prohet (saaws) said, NOt quoting, like: a true muslim wishes for his brother/sister what he wishes for himself. there were times when the Companions (ram) who had more than one wife and offered the brothers without one to choice from one of his.
the Prophet (saaws) wives never divorced him (saaws),
but look at his mess alot of brothers know what alot of sisters look like and alot of sisters are bitter in polygamy, on the day of judgement we have to answer to each wife and all chldren dependants. there isn't a way all women can be married, even each brother abled can only have 4 each, as wives, masha'llah
May Allah forbid any falsehood I've said and forgive me if i've stated anything wrong...amin!
As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llah