08-17-2003, 11:32 AM
Bismillahi, Ar Rahman, Nir Rahim!
As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llahi wa barakatu,
My Beloved Brothers,
we know we need our Sisters, to be happy, and their happiness can be fulfilled, by knowing and understanding more about how to deal with their husbands, children, and community. the happier they are the happier we can be too, and our children.
All women can't be content, but a righteous sister can, when given proper concern.
The Righteous Sisters (Servants of Allah ), need to know:
about polygamy:
We all who read, know that it is halaal, but it is acceptable and halaal, only under some conditions.
Some Brothers may say to me, "Brother why you go telling me, I don't have the right to get a second wife (some brothers think it is a joke), I'd said, "Man you have a striving wife it seems, a wife who helps you financially and maintain, do you feel right going for another, when your wife work so hard and give her all. Some brothers are humble and some get upset.
***Then I have alot of friends with more than enough for 2 wives (none can complain, not even their wives), then I have friends like myself (who realize i may have money, but it would hurt my wife so much, and i won't want to cause confusion in our marriage or the marriage of another. This is the wife who brings out the best in me, and I may be able to make it to Jannah to get the real wives( in paradise), no problems no headaches, etc. in Paradise*
INSHA'LLAH, BROTHERS PLEASE LET'S HELP OUR SISTERS TO UNDERSTAND, WHY WE WANT AND/OR NEED TO HAVE ANOTHER WIFE. WE CAN'T JUST SAY IT'S OUR RIGHT, WHEN WE ARE HARMING THE FIRST FAMILY, BECAUSE THAT'S NOT RIGHT.
I don't care which Brother is upset with me, I aim to Please Allah (swt). As for those who understand and heed where I'm coming from, I'm proud of you to admit, and have enough compassion to be imperfect and hurting one sister is enough, must you hurt the second, third, then fourth.
It may be easy if you hate women, like your mom, sister, aunts, and daughters.
The Prophet (saaws) LOVED WOMEN, he (saaws) stayed with Khadjiah (ra) only til her death for a reason, I've read much of what Khadijah (ra) had done for him (saaws) and for the whole community. She was rich before marrying, (i don't know if she was poor when she died, al-hamdu'llah. All the care she put into the Prophet (saaws), from money to her hard work and time. She was the first human to believe in him (saaws), she support him (saaws) in his (saaws) mission.
I pray Allah (swt)forgive me for what's said wrong..amin!.
As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llah