09-24-2003, 05:01 AM
Asalam~O~Alykum
I have read the article and all the post and here it is what I think. I think the poylgyny marriage sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't it depends on the ppl themselves. Then there is another point about Interracial Marriages it also have its ups and downs, but let me tell u why i think it wont work.
1- If they r from different countries it that might be hard b/c maybe the 2 countries are in war so each one them supports their country. That's one situation.
2- Different culture. Maybe she comes from Asia and he comes from Africa so there way of thinking could be different.
3- Raising the children. Maybe he wants the children to get to use to his culture and his background and also the same thing applies to her. So the children will be stick in the middle
4- Different laughed. Maybe he speaks English and she speaks Arabic so sometimes ppl want have a conversation with the laughed they r fluent in. That's a situation.
All of what I stated and more maybe a cause that this kind of marriage to die soooo soon.Or maybe not. Maybe it will work out. Who knows. Also I could be wrong b/c i never got married before and also it depends on the ppl themselves if they r comfortable with this situation or not. Also it might happened 2 ppl who marry with same culture, country, background or laughed. Not all marriages have 2 work out, but i tell u one thing. The best marriage that will survive if the 2 of them lived 4ever is the marriage that the 2 of them r working for the sake of Allah only and they r trying there best to serve him and 2 go to his paradise with his mercy.
Hope everyone will end up with the marriage.