09-23-2003, 01:49 PM
Asalam~O~Alykum
Written By: Shiekh Ibraheem Dawesh
Translated By: IslamWay Sisters Team
Woman is man’s counterpart, and his partner in life. In her haven, future men and good families grow…for every woman; daughter, sister and mother, I present these advices…
1. In every city, there are centers for quran inculcation during the summer. Dear sister, we urge you to participate in these centers.
Every mother and father should let their daughters go to these centers. We also ask you our sister, to guide and encourage your sisters to go to these centers to invest their time in the summer, or at least to meet other sisters who cooperate in doing good deeds.
2. During the summer vacation, there are a lot of weddings, occasions and meetings, where a large number of women gather. If we added the hours wasted in these meetings, we would find that about half of the summer vacation is wasted in doing almost nothing. Why don’t you use these occasions and meetings in listening to some lectures and lessons…? And why don’t you be the speaker yourself ? If you can’t do it, you can invite another sister who is a lecturer or ask the da’wa center in your city to find a lecturer for you.
Why do some women think that the da’wa activities are just for men and men only..! Why do they think that, enjoining what is right, and forbidding what is wrong is men’s job!!! In these weddings and occasions you might see tens of bad deeds, and wrong things like lewd singing, indecent clothes, photography, or any wrong thing, and in spite of that you don’t do anything about it, and you don’t say a word! A secret advice from you to one of the women who is doing a wrong thing, will give you a great reward from Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala …why do you deprive yourself from this great reward! Unfortunately, ignoring wrong things, as a complement, is the incurable ailment, that most of the women have these days. Listen to this verse and try to understand it; so that you know that it is your duty as it is men ‘s duty, Almighty Allah says:
“The Believers, men and women, are protectors, one of another: they enjoin what is just, and forbid what is evil: they observe regular prayers, practice regular charity, and obey Allah and His Messenger. On them will Allah pour His Mercy: for Allah is Exalted in power, Wise Allah hath promised to Believers - men and women - Gardens under which rivers flow, to dwell therein, and beautiful mansions in Gardens of everlasting bliss. But the greatest bliss is the Good Pleasure of Allah: that is the supreme felicity.” (Al-Tawba, 9:71)
You are obligated as any man to do these things…so what will you say to Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala when he asks you, why didn’t you do anything about the wrong deeds that you have seen? Every Muslim woman believes in doing good deeds, and loves to see them spread among her sisters…and I’m asking you… How do you think good deeds would spread among women, when you didn’t do anything to help that happen? How do you think good things would spread among women when there are those girls who spread bad novels and films among their friends in every occasion, and in the same time the pious woman is shy to distribute some religious guides or recorded lectures, and she might not even think about doing that… These occasions are great chances to educate our sisters how to invest their time in a good way.
Dear sister, we ask you to make da’wa to Allah, your ultimate goal and to take the mission of spreading good things among women, especially in the private occasions.
3. We hope that the mosques and the quraan inculcation centers arrange special courses for women, discussing the issues that concern them, such as:Menses and postpartum rules, divorce, treating your husband, raising kids, woman’s attitude towards Muslim issues. These courses should include special contests for women, summarizing some important books and researches, charity food, and anything related to women, in the way that they would benefit from it and make the best use of their time.
4. For every woman, we urge you to attend the symposiums held in your city, and listen to the lectures to benefit from them, and if you couldn’t attend all the lectures, you should at least choose some of them.
5. You should also encourage your sisters to attend these symposiums, and call them repeatedly to urge them to do that. Women waste a lot of time doing phone calls, Why don’t you make this time worthy, and use it to guide to good deeds. Even if you were not able to participate in these symposiums yourself, you will get the reward for guiding your sisters and encouraging them to do so.