09-23-2003, 12:14 PM
Salam Ukhti
May be I can add one point, I think Ummibrehim, any cross culture marriage is subject to smiliar problems. I just remembered now I have a relative who married an american. The man reverted ahead of course. Although he didn't disclose the change of faith to them, his family members were and still are very rejectful of her. Being from the MIddle East, they have a problem with this. A similar case of my friend who married a Greek man. She also suffered until his family finally accepted the fact. I think it is the culture more than anything else, specially when change of faith is involved. Unfortunately, also and I must say the truth, most Muslims always doubt the truthfulness of a revert when marriage is the obejectvie. I mean they may accept one who reverts then by chance meets someone and marries rather than revet and marries immediately. Of course this is opposite to sunnah, We are not allowed under any circumstances to doubt what is in a human beings chest. it is only between him/her and Allah.
But I am just tossing ideas around