sometimes ideas keep coming on
Only when marriage is for Allah, that a woman can take her husband's departure for Jihad or even if he is honored by martyrdom. Only then she is capable to handle the situation. Because a man occupies a very special position in his wife's life. And also only then that a man can easily leave behind his loved wife and children to go for Allah's sake. Other wise, he shall never ba able to.
May Allah grant us all Shahadah for His cause