09-14-2003, 05:21 PM
as salam alykom
May be a bit late but I still have something to say here
Mash a Allah
most important is not only to look for your rights (for both partners) , but also make sure you know your liabilities. Make sure to know what marriage really is. It is never a liesure trip where a man and a woman wearing nice casual white clothes and running each after other on the beach with light music in the background, or a man hiring a Mexican band to stand under the woman's balcony playing besame Mutcho . No it is life, it is a man who wakes up in the morning to work, face difficulties, come back home needing to find a "dwelling", of course he shall also know that even patting his wife's head or kissing her is sadaqah. Marriage is mutual responsibilities before having rights. But the standards here are putforth by Allah and only Him. For if we fail to look at it this way, nothing would be actually easy. Love is never enough, it usually fades away after the first, second maximum third time of the intimate relation, what really sustains is the mercy and amicable feeling giving by Allah.
May Allah bestow His mercy and love (مودة) between all husbands and wives, may He gather between them in Khair, may He makes all married couples the best of Da`ia for Islam on earth.
ameen