Let us even examine which word Allah Used to refer to the type of emotions Allah Instills between married couple. In Quran, Allah Did not Use the word Love (hub) but rather Allah Used the word Mawada (which is amicable and kindness). Mawada is also derived from Wud, which is to maintain contact and communication. But if we look where Did Allah Use the word Hub, we will be surprised. It is used when Allah Intends to blame mankind for being preoccupied with other issues than Allah:
" Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwellings in which you delight, are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger, and striving hard and fighting in His Cause, then wait until Allah brings about His Decision (torment). And Allah guides not the people who are rebellious." (Quran 9:24). The bolded word in the above noble Ayah in Arabic is Ahub so a more precise translation of the meaning would be more loved to you. Where else? Describing how the woman of Al Aziz was infatuated with Yusuf salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam. Allah Say:
"And women in the city said: "The wife of Al-'Azeez is seeking to seduce her (slave) young man, indeed she loves him violently; verily we see her in plain error." (12:30).
Can you see the difference between the Divine expression of the type of emotions involved in marital relation and others. When Allah Used Hub, it was to refer to all worldly items that might capture a human beings heart including parents, children, ..etc. When the feeling was a reason for a woman to loose her mind and respect, and be determined to force a young man to commit Haram, again the word Hub was used. I m sure people would react saying, what are you calling for?? Are you saying that married couple should not love one another. On the contrary. But we should seek the type of emotions Allah told us He will instill. Mawada. There is much difference.
" Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwellings in which you delight, are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger, and striving hard and fighting in His Cause, then wait until Allah brings about His Decision (torment). And Allah guides not the people who are rebellious." (Quran 9:24). The bolded word in the above noble Ayah in Arabic is Ahub so a more precise translation of the meaning would be more loved to you. Where else? Describing how the woman of Al Aziz was infatuated with Yusuf salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam. Allah Say:
"And women in the city said: "The wife of Al-'Azeez is seeking to seduce her (slave) young man, indeed she loves him violently; verily we see her in plain error." (12:30).
Can you see the difference between the Divine expression of the type of emotions involved in marital relation and others. When Allah Used Hub, it was to refer to all worldly items that might capture a human beings heart including parents, children, ..etc. When the feeling was a reason for a woman to loose her mind and respect, and be determined to force a young man to commit Haram, again the word Hub was used. I m sure people would react saying, what are you calling for?? Are you saying that married couple should not love one another. On the contrary. But we should seek the type of emotions Allah told us He will instill. Mawada. There is much difference.