07-13-2007, 01:56 PM
Bismillah
as salam alykom Khadija
Well, let us look at the matter from two sides, personal, human being, it is only normal for women to feel jealous, but how to handle the jealousy and express it? is the core of interest.
First off, if the husband is talking to another woman for a reason or the other while observing full Islamic manners, we do talk to me u know, why should u be jealous to start with? Jealousy builds on the Nafs. It builds on what is different about her? what is specialy about her. Nothing, since your husband chose to marry u, thus, he must be seeing u special and enough of a woman. Feeling jealous in such case, hurts no one but the woman who feels it, since sometimes, it can really take her to positions she wouldnt like to be in. If we think that if i m smart, there must others who are smarter, if I m pretty there must be others who are prettier, ..etc. Thus, a husband talking to another woman in a regular normal context shouldnt actually raise any jealousy. However, for example Aaesha used to feel jealous about the Messenger salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam and what we should learn and focus on is how to contain this feeling and handle it in order not to distroy a relation that could be really very beatiful for no reason other than desires of Nafs.
Hope I helped dear Khadija and sorry if the reply came late. Hope Muslimah min Felisteen is ok.