08-25-2003, 07:21 AM
Praise be to Allah and prayer and peace be upon His Messenger Mohamed
As Salam Alykom
Sister Star asked me a question yesterday, so I thought Insh a Allah why not share it with the answer with everybody. She was discussing with someone that we must marry for the sake of Allah with the purpose of procreation and establishing a Muslim family. Her party made fun of her, she didn't believe that this must be our objective for getting married and asked her for an evidence from Quran. Well the evidence in Quran will be shocking for her. The Ayah says:
" Say (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم): "Verily, my Salât (prayer), my sacrifice, my living, and my dying are for Allâh, the Lord of the ‘Âlamîn (mankind, jinn and all that exists)." Quran 6:162)
La hawala wala qowata ilabillah. With a thorough look, one realizes that not only marriage which is simply part of our lives in this world that must be dedicated to Allah, but rather our whole life, in addition to other items as mentioned in the ayah which Allah topped with prayer. And just take note that Allah started with prayer although one may say that prayer is simply part of life. Yes it sure is. However, due to its major importance for a Muslim, Allah made special emphasis on it putting it on top of other matters which must be dedicated only to Allah. In simple explanation, if at any point one would for example excel in his/her prayer only when people may see, the salat would be dedicated for people and not for Allah. Like wise the sacrifice. The order of prayer followed by sacrifice of course is a reference to Eidu Aldha " Therefore turn in prayer to your Lord and sacrifice (to Him only)." (Quran 108:1). then Allah brought the part of living. Living includes everything, work, education, marriage, food, sleep, entertainment and a long list of life activities. All with no exception must be fully and only dedicating to Allah. Have we fail to fulfill the condition of Niyah (intention), yes that is the point, Niyah in everything we do must be only to Allah. In case we fail to do so, therefore, the activity would be dedicated to ourselves. In the case subject of discussion, marriage, would be for love, shelter, financial support, beauty, position, social status or other. We certainly will attain a benefit, however, the benefit would be a self satisfactory one, with a very temporary short term impact. May be in some cases this impact may last only for the first week of marriage. After which people will find no solid ground to work out things. On the contrary when marriage is concluded for the sake of Allah, we don't mean u go and marry someone you don't like, Allah Sobhanhu wa Ta`ala blesses the marriage, makes things easy, inspires the person to even look at difficult situations as means to get closer to Allah, closely Assists the parents with raising children and many more benefits. Most important of which is attaining the satisfaction of Allah.
Wallah a`alam