03-13-2007, 10:34 PM
(This post was last modified: 03-13-2007, 10:40 PM by abdulwalee.)
Quote:salaam,
well thanks for your advice you guys, but i think i need more feedback.
Mahr (The Dower)
Give what is easeist to fulfill of wealth gold, diamonds, Cash. and consult with the bride and negotiate. Dont be extravagant. many sisters think that the more the dowry the higher their status nothing is furthest from the truth.
One regrettable aspect of dowry-giving in recent times is that it is becoming more and more a matter of ostentation. Nothing could be more un-Islamic in motivation than this. Even the practice of performing a marriage quietly, without any flamboyant display of wealth, but subsequently giving a lavish dowry to enable the bride to set up her home is contrary to Islamic practice. It was certainly not the 'Sunnah' of the Prophet . Fatimah was his favorite daughter, but he neither gave her a lavish dowry nor did he send things to her home after the wedding. Even when Fatimah made a request to him for something of a material nature, he only gave her the benefit of his counsel.
Islam has successfully maintained an even balance in society between men and women by giving its unequivocal endorsement to a practical division of labor, whereby women are placed in charge of the internal arrangement of the household, while men are responsible for its financing. The home is thus organized on the pattern of a microcosmic estate, with the man in a position of authority. The Qur’an is specified on this issue:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because God has made some of them to excel others and because they support them from their means. All the righteous women are the truly devout ones, who guard the intimacy which God has (ordained to be) guarded.” (4: 34) May Allah grant you and hern a good union and a life upon a blessed way.