12-14-2006, 02:23 PM
Bismillah
as salam alykom sister Jahmia
First off, pls allow me to welcome you to the board and say cogratulations for returning back to where u originally belonged.
Sister, the best method to deal with such situations, which may actually occur in mutliple circumstances, is just to focus on learning more and more about your new religion, strive to get closer to Allah, rather than being occupied with people. Matter of fact, yes we have to be a part of a large community, but dont let this community pull you back or down, dont get yourself into human /human problems and issues, you have a lot to learn. Just maintain a neutral, steady attitude towards all. Look what exactly Islam teaches and try to abide. People shall have something or the other to say any way. For example, if u r not married, they will inquire why, if u r married with no children, they will start talking about the blessing of having children, if u r attending regular Islamic circles, they will tell u there is a better one. When someone tells u that only Arabs are the real muslims, give them the example of Salman Elfaresi, Maria (the Prophet's wife), leave alone the hundreds of Tabe`en (successors) who lived during the era after the Messenger's death who were from different places of the world including Asia...
Humans are humans sister, focus on the teachings on the core of interest...
Alhamdulelah, you became a Muslim may Allah keep u fixed.