07-18-2006, 05:17 PM
Quote::assalam: thank u for answering back that does make sense
well i have sisters and they are always talking about guys from school like guy teachers or boys that go to the school sometimes they would just say stuff like hes so cute or sometimes they would be making fun of them ( not about there apperance but about things that they did ) im not sure if its haram and everytime i tell them to change the subject they would say well its not haram to talk about it.
how do u "ansah" someone without being rude im 14 and i have to older sisters one is 18 and the other is 16 its hard to make them change there mind and sometimes i find myself more strict about prayers then my parents
Sister, in these situations, it is best to try to strengthen ur iman and theirs first, especially when u tried with them the first time and it didn't work.
When u and ur sisters learn ur deen and become stronger in iman, you will find urselves keeping away from these things, and not doing it.
So the key is for you to be better than them and be a good example to them, and try to encourage them to do good deeds and to pray on time, also if there are Halaqas in ur masjid, encourage them to go.
Buy some Islamic booklets that talk about prayer and important acts of worship in Islam and things that make them closer to Allah, also good Islamic tapes.
Also, if after advising them they dont' listen to you, you should leave the room, and not sit and listen to unpermissable talk.
As for the issue of love and liking a person, it is not haram to like someone of the opposite sex, but one should keep it to himself and it is not permissable for one to look at them, one should be lowering their gaze.
Looking at them can add fuel to the fire, and it might lead to something more serious than just liking the person.
And you should keep away from them,
If one feels love towards a Muslim from the opposite gender, and he/she is a good Muslim, then one should ask Allah to make him/her his/her future husband/wife if he/she is best for him/her.
But just liking a person whom you can't get married to, causes more harm than good, and you should ask Allah to help you not get attracted to that person, and you should keep away from places he is in.