07-02-2006, 05:25 PM
<b>* When we consider the guidance of the Prophet (p.b.u.h.), we observe that he never once struck his wife or servant. I am not merely discussing the question of “to hit or not to hit”. What I am saying is that hitting often exacerbates the problem far more than it remedies it. </b>
Good point. When I see Mother's hitting their children in public it really upsets me and I feel like stopping that Hand. Or when I see these woman who's child is walking behind them in the malls, and they keep telling the child *come on* not even holding the childs hand :rolleyes:. My mom still holds my hand to this day wherever we go.
Children learn how to behave by what methods we teach them to take from us. If you hit a child whenever they do something wrong, they will never listen to you except that you hit them.
If you are gentle with your child and your approach and your method of decipline is to use other forms of communication like show them that your upset and sit. They will really learn to behave just by looking at you.
Children watch...they really really watch everything you do. Some people might say I never hit my child but my child is aggressive and I am very gentle with my child but every night you physically fight with your husband. What do you think your children is hearing & Seeing.
I also have serious issues with a child that fears his parent, I have observed that if you are feared present you will also be hated absent.