Is it Haraam to fall in love with a women.

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Brother waheedrafiq,you ask"is it haraam to fall in love with a girl before marriage?".


I think it depends about your understanding to the meaning of love,if you mean this natural feeling (in the heart)of admiration and attraction towards certain woman,I think this is not haraam,I think that because Allah mentioned that feeling in the Quran and did`nt deny it,only Allah guided us what we should do if this feeling come in unsuitable time or towards unsuitable person.


Refer to Ayah 2/221


"And do not marry the idolaters women until they believe, and certainly a believing maid is better than an idolatress woman, even though she should please you......."


In this Ayah Allah ordered us to neglect this feeling if it is come towards the idolaters,we must directed our feeling towards the believing women.


Refer to Ayah 2/235


"And there is no blame on you respecting that which you speak indirectly in the asking of (such) women in marriage or keep (the proposal) concealed within your minds; Allah


knows that you win mention them, but do not give them a promise in secret unless you speak in a lawful manner, and do not confirm the marriage tie until the writing is fulfilled, and know that Allah knows what is in your minds, therefore beware of Him, and know that Allah is Forgiving, Forbearing"


In this Ayah Allah permit us to inform the woman we want to marry in a lawful manner(this manner included flattering her in polite words)if our feeling come withen the few monthes


after her husband death in which she is not admitted to marry.


So I think that love as a feeling is not forbidden,but we have no rights due to this feeling,not only the rights of touching her but we should give her all rights(talking in public,talking politely,lower our seen,no touching,no informing her with our feeling....)


If we want to know more about her,this should be done withen the permissibl actions.


If we want to know her feeling before asking her father the marriage we can do this only for once followed by immediatly engagement.