04-24-2006, 09:48 AM
:bismillah:
wa alykom as salam
Pls accept my apology for being late to come back here again
I understand your point, it is also hard to be any where around the world without being in contact with men somehow or the other. Even at the time of the Messenger, women did have communication with men.
For instance, the Ayah of:
And perform the prayer at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the night [i.e. the five compulsory prayers]. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds (i.e. small sins). That is a reminder (an advice) for the mindful (those who accept advice). (Quran 11:104)
was revealed when a woman went to a date seller in the market, he lied to her about better quality dates in his house to take her there. When she went with him to get the merchandise, he was able to kiss her. She seriously admonished him and reminded him of Allah. He was very regretful that he couldnt take the guilt. He went to Abu Bakr and told him, Abu Bakr asked him did you tell anyone? he said no. Abu Bakr said then cover up yourself and just keep quite. Still he couldnt take the guilt, went and asked Omar, Omar replied did you tell anyone? He said yes Abu Bakr, Omar said what did he tell you, he said to keep quite and not tell others. Omar wacked him on the chest and said then why did you tell me? But the man was feeling terrible. He went to the masjed, prayed Asr in congregation. Then asked the Messenger salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam. The Messenger looked very sad and gazed down to the floor saying I have nothing for you. The man turned away and started walking in despair. That is when Allah Revealed to the Messenger salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam this Ayah as a remedy. The Messenger called salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam called the man and told him that as long as he prayed Asr in congregation Allah Forgave him. He asked is this remedy or solution only for me or the Ummah in general, the Messenger salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam replied for the Ummah.
In other words, we are suseptible to meet and communicate with men. But we also must maintain the attitude ordained in Quran and Sunnah. As we must not talk in a seductive manner, we must use straight voices, we must only restrict to the minimum amount of talking needed.
As for looking at the person for what they do, if it is only that we respect their action, we make dua for them to conitnue, to be better, to improve and for other brothers to follow.
We try our best not to let this look be covered with satan inspiration. If it happens, we just strive to cease thinking about the person and get ourselves busy with anything.
I m not sure if i answered your point, if not I will be happy to try more aldhahri :)
Quote::assalam:
what if u see them doing something good (e.g. helping in the mosque or taking care of little kids or holding doors open for other people) and you appreciate it and like them for what they did.
so basically u like that person cause they did something good, i mean its sort of hard if your living in areas like the U.K. not to look at man cause u have to deal with them in your daily lives, and when someone does something good just to show them they did something good and people appreciate it you would look at them with approval.
did the prophet's :saws2: companions ever encounter anything like this (with the whole love thing)
if there are any inspiring hadiths or "auat" or stories i would love to hear them!!
thank you and :jazaak: !!