04-04-2006, 01:00 PM
Bismillah
wa alykom as salam warahamtullah wa barakatuh
Phew, what a post. How many questions let me see :) 10 :peace: and each one of them needs a whole book.
Let us take them one by one and Insh aAllah i also hope other brothers and sisters will help here.
1. Opposite sex:
love towerd the oppsite sex: how haram is it to look at there "ewrat" ( the places were not meant to see )?
Yes it is haram, and it is even haram to look at the a`warat among the same sex.
For male the a`wara area is between the buttoc and knees.
For female is the same.
In other words, when a man looks at another man or a woman looks at another woman. The above mentioned are the restricted parts that should not be revealed even among the same sex.
if u give me more time, Insh aAllah slowly will get the hadeeth.
is it natural to feel attracted to the oppsite sex? o course. That is why we should lower our gazea as in Quran.
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.* And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful." (Quran 24:30-31)
is it haram to see someone kissing/hugging ?? (like when your whatching t.v.)
Yes it goes under lowering the gaze from whatever is haram.
is it haram to look at someone you like??
Again lowering the gaze, since u started liking the person, looking at this person may steer emotions and feelings that are not proper. The person is not a spouse. Allah Commands us to stop such acts from the very beginning but not even looking in order to avoid such problems.
Insh a Allah the rest will be attended to bit by bit.